WTMFI (Way Too Much F***ing Information) Wednesdays
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The Questions & My Answers
Should we teach children about sexuality? When? How?
I’m a pretty big believer in teaching everyone about sexuality. When it comes to kids, it’s a tricky situation and ultimately every kid is going to be taught differently, but that doesn’t mean that it shouldn’t be done.
I can only really speak about teaching my own kids about sexuality, because I’ve never really taught anyone else. But I was always determined to be honest with my kids about everything. Obviously I’ve learned that that’s not always possible and the truth is very subjective, but when it came to their bodies…
Penises were always called penises. If I was on my period and they came into the bathroom and had questions, they were told exactly what was happening. When they overheard The Boyfriend and I having sex, it was talked about openly and honestly. And now, as I’m dealing with a very curious 13-year-old, masturbation and fetishes are talked about almost daily (and when these conversations are going down, none of the younger children are shielded from them).
Kids kinda all start to show interest in their bodies and other people’s bodies at different points. I have one kid who was endlessly curious about sex from the time she was young and I have another who still “eewwss” at the mention or sight of nipples. So, you give them as much as they are seeking. When she was 5-years-old and came home from Kindergarten talking about rape, there were certain things she needed to know – so the basic “What is rape?” conversation was had. Now that she’s in middle school, the rape conversation is WAY different. Not only are there different points in their interest levels, there are different points in their understanding and comprehension levels.
So, in terms of my own personal experience with educating kids about sexuality, you tailor it individually for your kids interest and comfort levels. But, you still talk about. I’m also a big supporter of sex education for the school curriculum. I thoroughly enjoyed sex ed as a kid, and all my kids have come out of it and any questions they still had, they felt comfortable enough to come ask me.
I think just treating sex and sexuality like a normal natural part of our existence and experience is the best way to teach kids about sex.
Would you feel comfortable talking to a doctor about your sexuality?
I’ve had 5 kids… What do you think?!?
Part of the reason I have the views I have about sex education and children is because I strongly believe that doctors can do they’re job best when patients are educated. There’s a huge difference between my labia or some part of my vulva hurts and my vagina hurts. Even if you’re thinking about, horrifically, a court of law looking at a child making rape accusations and testifying in court and because they don’t have the language to accurately describe what’s happened… ugh just thinking about it.
I believe in absolute transparency with my doctor especially. That person is my healer and isn’t here to judge me. And even if he does… that doesn’t make much of a difference to me. He needs to know everything so that he can do his job to the best of his ability. So yeah, I feel comfortable talking to my doctor about sexuality.
Could you talk to your parents about sex?
Yes. I can talk to anyone about sex!!!
Sometimes, I wish my parents felt a little less comfortable talking to me about sex – talk about way too much f**ing information…
Would you attend a sexuality conference?
I would love to attend a lot of sexuality conferences. I’ve never had the opportunity to do so, but you can bet that if I ever get the opportunity, I’ll be there! In a heartbeat!
Should sex be talked about on the daily?
Why shouldn’t it be?!? I have a passion for sexuality. Why shouldn’t I be allowed to talk about my passion on the daily. It’s also, again, a supernatural part of existence. So yeah, why shouldn’t it be?!?
If you could talk to anyone about sex, who would you want to talk to?
This list is so incredibly extensive. I have so many idols in the sex-world, from sex educators to researchers to authors and bloggers, there are literally so many people. Probably the top of my list, the number one person I would love to talk about sex with, would be Alfred Kinsey. I find him to be a great inspiration and just think him and I could have some really great conversations.
Again, there are so many people I would add to this list. It’s kinda hard to think where to start. I think I’ll give this one some thought and write a post about it later. But I can think of so many!!!