#WTMFIWednesdays: Session #5 – Speaking of Sex


WTMFI (Way Too Much F***ing Information) Wednesdays

WTMFI (Way Too Much F***ing Information) Wednesdays

A weekly sex meme arousing discussions on sexuality


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The Questions & My Answers


Question 1:
Should we teach children about sexuality? When? How?

I’m a pretty big believer in teaching everyone about sexuality. When it comes to kids, it’s a tricky situation and ultimately every kid is going to be taught differently, but that doesn’t mean that it shouldn’t be done.

I can only really speak about teaching my own kids about sexuality, because I’ve never really taught anyone else. But I was always determined to be honest with my kids about everything. Obviously I’ve learned that that’s not always possible and the truth is very subjective, but when it came to their bodies…

Penises were always called penises. If I was on my period and they came into the bathroom and had questions, they were told exactly what was happening. When they overheard The Boyfriend and I having sex, it was talked about openly and honestly. And now, as I’m dealing with a very curious 13-year-old, masturbation and fetishes are talked about almost daily (and when these conversations are going down, none of the younger children are shielded from them).

Kids kinda all start to show interest in their bodies and other people’s bodies at different points. I have one kid who was endlessly curious about sex from the time she was young and I have another who still “eewwss” at the mention or sight of nipples. So, you give them as much as they are seeking. When she was 5-years-old and came home from Kindergarten talking about rape, there were certain things she needed to know – so the basic “What is rape?” conversation was had. Now that she’s in middle school, the rape conversation is WAY different. Not only are there different points in their interest levels, there are different points in their understanding and comprehension levels.

So, in terms of my own personal experience with educating kids about sexuality, you tailor it individually for your kids interest and comfort levels. But, you still talk about. I’m also a big supporter of sex education for the school curriculum. I thoroughly enjoyed sex ed as a kid, and all my kids have come out of it and any questions they still had, they felt comfortable enough to come ask me.

I think just treating sex and sexuality like a normal natural part of our existence and experience is the best way to teach kids about sex.

Question 2:
Would you feel comfortable talking to a doctor about your sexuality?

I’ve had 5 kids… What do you think?!?

Part of the reason I have the views I have about sex education and children is because I strongly believe that doctors can do they’re job best when patients are educated. There’s a huge difference between my labia or some part of my vulva hurts and my vagina hurts. Even if you’re thinking about, horrifically, a court of law looking at a child making rape accusations and testifying in court and because they don’t have the language to accurately describe what’s happened… ugh just thinking about it.

I believe in absolute transparency with my doctor especially. That person is my healer and isn’t here to judge me. And even if he does… that doesn’t make much of a difference to me. He needs to know everything so that he can do his job to the best of his ability. So yeah, I feel comfortable talking to my doctor about sexuality.

Question 3:
Could you talk to your parents about sex?

Yes. I can talk to anyone about sex!!!

Sometimes, I wish my parents felt a little less comfortable talking to me about sex – talk about way too much f**ing information…

Question 4:
Would you attend a sexuality conference?

I would love to attend a lot of sexuality conferences. I’ve never had the opportunity to do so, but you can bet that if I ever get the opportunity, I’ll be there! In a heartbeat!

Question 5:
Should sex be talked about on the daily?

Why shouldn’t it be?!? I have a passion for sexuality. Why shouldn’t I be allowed to talk about my passion on the daily. It’s also, again, a supernatural part of existence. So yeah, why shouldn’t it be?!?

BONUS:
If you could talk to anyone about sex, who would you want to talk to?

This list is so incredibly extensive. I have so many idols in the sex-world, from sex educators to researchers to authors and bloggers, there are literally so many people. Probably the top of my list, the number one person I would love to talk about sex with, would be Alfred Kinsey. I find him to be a great inspiration and just think him and I could have some really great conversations.

Again, there are so many people I would add to this list. It’s kinda hard to think where to start. I think I’ll give this one some thought and write a post about it later. But I can think of so many!!!


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#WTMFIWednesdays: Session #4 – Lick or Spit?


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WTMFI (Way Too Much F***ing Information) Wednesdays

A weekly sex meme arousing discussions on sexuality


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The Questions & My Answers


#Q1: Would you rather... give or receive oral sex?
#Q1: Would you rather… give or receive oral sex?

#A1:

I would definitely rather give oral sex. Don’t get me wrong, I love receiving oral sex. But I’ve always considered myself a bit of an artiste when it comes to blowjobs (and I imagine cunnilingus too, just have no proof for that particular experience) and derive a lot of serious pleasure from the act of giving oral sex. I’ve written plenty about it and I even have the quotes to prove it 😉

Session #4 - #Q2: Would you rather... lick up spit or cum? - #WTMFIWednesdays
#Q2: Would you rather… lick up spit or cum?

#A2:

Definitely cum.

I’ve never really been all that into spit. I get really grossed out when watching porn when they do the whole spitting on cock or vag – even if it’s for the functional purpose of lube. I use spit as lube, but I’m not about to literally let my spit dribble out of my mouth for the purpose. I’m not a fan of ball gags solely because of the idea of drool. Just not a big fan of spit.

But cum, that’s a whole other game. I like just about everything about cum. And while I’m not a fan of the taste of cum after it’s had a chance to cool (which happens really fast…), I’d be much more comfortable with that.

Had a cute moment when Kaeidyn saw these questions:

Session #4 - #Q3: Would you rather... spit out cum or swallow cum? - #WTMFIWednesdays
#Q3: Would you rather… spit out cum or swallow cum?

#A3:

Absolutely swallow cum.

From a very young age, even before I actually started giving blowjobs, I have always thought that if you get it in your mouth, you might as well swallow it. Also, refer to question 2 – the longer cum sits, the quicker it gets cold and cold cum is not good cum. And another thing, I’d have to like regurgitate cum from my throat to be able to spit it out, it’s normally so far back there that there is no point in spitting it out. Plus, it’s good for me, so why would I spit it out?!?

Session #4 - #Q4: Would you rather... vagina-to-anus sex or anus-to-vagina sex? - #WTMFIWednesdays
#Q4: Would you rather… vagina-to-anus sex or anus-to-vagina sex?

#A4:

I would rather no anal sex.

But, purely for health/hygiene reasons, vagina-to-anus.

Session #4 - #Q5: Would you rather... squirting or non-squirting orgasms? - #WTMFIWednesdays
#Q5: Would you rather… squirting or non-squirting orgasms?

#A5:

First things first, I’m happy with any kind of orgasm. However, it has always been on my list to have a squirting orgasm. Never had one before, but I don’t know if I’d want it to be an every time thing either. Squirting for special occasions or certain types of sex or something.

Session #4 - #BONUS: Would you rather... be caught masturbating or giving oral sex? - #WTMFIWednesdays
#BONUS: Would you rather… be caught masturbating or giving oral sex?

#BONUS:

I think I would rather be caught masturbating. I’ve actually been thinking about this question for a few days, trying to picture it in my head. And I keep thinking, probably masturbating. I can’t exactly pinpoint why I’d rather be caught masturbating than giving oral sex, but probably mostly because then I’d only have to worry about my own embarrassment and not my partners. It also feels less intimate to me and it’s easier to play off like you weren’t doing anything.

It’s funny though, because if you had asked if I’d rather be watched masturbating or giving oral sex, where like all parties were consenting to this experience, I’d have picked giving oral sex over masturbating any day!!!


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#WTMFIWednesdays: Session #3 – Masturbation


WTMFI (Way Too Much F***ing Information) Wednesdays

WTMFI (Way Too Much F***ing Information) Wednesdays

A weekly sex meme arousing discussions on sexuality


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The Questions & My Answers


Question 1:
What was your first time masturbating like?

I don’t know if I remember my very first time. I remember two of the very first times, but I can’t be sure that they were the very first – just the first ones that I remember.

One time was with my favorite stuffed toy, that became just about my most favorite pervertible ever. It had a nice hard nose that felt so good to grind against. The next time, I was supposed to be laying down for a nap, but couldn’t sleep, so grinded against my fingers and the mattress.

Question 2:
When and how often do you typically masturbate?

I go through phases. Sometimes, I’m masturbating constantly – multiple times a day for days on end. Other times, I can go weeks without even thinking about it. 

Generally, I get bitchy if I don’t orgasm every three days, so I am to either have sex or masturbate that often.

Question 3:
Who, if anyone, do you typically fantasize about when you masturbate?

Almost always, I fantasize about The Boyfriend. 

When I fantasize about other people, which normally only happens in the context of threesomes or group sex with The Boyfriend, other guys typically are faceless versions of The Boyfriend. He really does have my favorite type of body to fantasize about! If there’s a girl there, which sometimes happens, she’s basically a faceless version of me. 

I almost never see faces when I’m fantasizing. Lips up-close, sometimes. But never a full-out face.

Question 4:
Where do you typically masturbate? Describe the setting.

So, there’s basically three spots that I like to masturbate in. 

The first, and probably most used, is the bathtub. I can lock the door and that’s probably the biggest reason I like it. Our bathroom right now is pretty small and the bathtub is pretty small and you can almost never get a full bath of hot water, but again, it locks.

The next is my bedroom. It’s a really boring bedroom. I’m not one for decorating, so there’s literally a mattress on the floor. But I have just about the best comforter in the world and it’s a comfy place to do pretty much anything sexual.

Finally, on the couch, in front of the computer. It doesn’t happen often here, but if I’m having one of those super horny streaks, the couch in the living room gets used a lot more than I’d like to admit!

Question 5:
How do you typically masturbate?

I’ve been masturbating the same way for a really long time now. It’s what works best for me. It’s always right hand, three fingers (pointer, middle and ring), firmly on my clit with periodic dips into my vag for lubrication. Sometimes, especially if I’m having a hard time getting there, I’ll use my left hand to pull everything taut or push/pull things to the perfect spot. 

BONUS:
Are there any reasons, other than arousal, that you masturbate?

Definitely, although I think it normally always turns into arousal. It can be started to relieve stress or headaches, if I’m feeling incredibly bored and lonely or if I’m just having a hard time feeling sexy in my skin. Sometimes, if I’m having bad insomnia, I’ll use it as a way to put myself to sleep – although that normally results in having to go 3 or 4 times, which works, but is exhausting!!!


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#WTMFIWednesdays - Session #2 Cover Photo

#WTMFIWednesdays: Session #2 – I Touch Myself


WTMFI (Way Too Much F***ing Information) Wednesdays

WTMFI (Way Too Much F***ing Information) Wednesdays

A weekly sex meme arousing discussions on sexuality


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The Questions & My Answers


Question 1:
Have you ever masturbated in front of someone else?

Regularly! 

A lot of times after the actual sexual intercourse and after The Boyfriend’s orgasm, I like to masturbate to have normally my second orgasm – to just kind of close out the night.

Question 2:
Have you ever masturbated in a room full of people?

No, but it is absolutely a fantasy and on my list of things to do. As a bit of an exhibitionist, I’ve always wanted to do all sorts of sexual things surrounded by people – watching and enjoying me doing what I do 😉

Question 3:
Have you ever masturbated at work?

I never have, but probably mostly because I haven’t worked in a really really long time.

Would I do this? Probably. 

Question 4:
Have you ever masturbated using an object that wasn’t intended for that purpose?

Absolutely!

For a long time, I didn’t have access to sex toys – especially as an exploring teenager. So, stuffed puppy dogs were a favorite for a long time. Hairbrush handles were a short-lived obsession. I went through a phase where I would only use pervertibles because I didn’t think my pleasure should cost me anything or involve me going out of my way or above and beyond.

Question 5:
Have you ever masturbated enough to cause yourself injury, no matter how small?

Yes… Unfortunately, I have done this a few times. Normally, really small “injuries”. Nicks from a nail, almost like chaffing from going for too long and too hard, a soreness feeling near my perineum from tugging too much on the area I had stitches. Luckily, nothing serious!

BONUS:
Have you ever masturbated to porn that didn’t turn you on?

No, I’m pretty picky about porn. And I will turn it off the second there is something that I don’t like or that doesn’t turn me on or that doesn’t intrigue me in some way. 


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#WTMFIWednesdays - Session #1 Cover Photo

#WTMFIWednesdays: Session #1 – The First Time


WTMFI (Way Too Much F***ing Information) Wednesdays

WTMFI (Way Too Much F***ing Information) Wednesdays

A weekly sex meme arousing discussions on sexuality


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The Questions & My Answers


Question 1:
What was your first time kissing like?

My first time kissing happened on New Years’ back in 2000 into 2001. It was with my very first boyfriend. We had been dating for quite awhile by this point and my Mom, in her New Years’ Eve drunkenness, insisted that I had to kiss him that night. I was glad she did, because honestly, I was super scared to have my first kiss. It felt like a really serious move to me.

I remember thinking at the time that it was the best thing I had ever experienced. Even though our little trailer was filled with about thirty people and music was blaring and dogs were barking and everyone except us was drunk, the whole world just kinda stood still for us to have a great intimate moment. I don’t think we ever had another kiss like that with each other.

Question 2:
Did you orgasm the first time you masturbated?

The first time that I can remember masturbating, I had discovered the hard nose of one of my stuffed toy dogs. It was not the type of orgasm I know now, it was more of a quick shudder. I remember becoming absolutely obsessed with that dog until the day that I discovered that water coming from the tap in the bathtub…

Question 3:
What was it like giving oral sex the first time?

So, again with the same first boyfriend mentioned above. We used to go to his Dad’s house about once a month for a big dinner. It was usually food that I hated, but we got to spend quite a lot of time alone there. I remember that the movie Black Sheep was playing in the background. He kept insisting I needed to watch this movie, but we were both far too distracted. I still couldn’t tell you what that movie is about…

I remember thinking that I was exceptionally skilled at it – probably why I’m still so cocky about it today. It just felt very natural and comfortable and right. I immediately knew that I would want to do that again!

Question 4:
Did you think you were good or bad at sex the first time?

Our first time having sex, again with the same boyfriend in all my other firsts, was generally awkward.

It was at a party. Everyone in attendance knew the plan was for us to have sex that night. Everyone was basically cheering us on. My sister had brought along a huge pack of condoms. Again, everyone except us was drinking.

There were a lot of interruptions. Almost as soon as I got my shirt off, my sister barged in and snapped pictures of us (which my Mom later developed and this is how she got confirmation that we had had sex – I had told her ahead of time that it was going to happen). During some pretty intense foreplay, a drunk girl stumbled in insisting I was Crystal. Needless to say, it was hours upon hours upon hours before we finally got down to it.

It was awkward and funny, but I definitely didn’t think I was bad at it. I thought that practice would make us better 😉

Question 5:
What was your first time falling in love like?

Crazy…

We were together for about 2 years, give or take. And I fell really hard. It took me a really long time to get over him. We were both incredibly passionate people – not just in terms of loving each other, but about everything. So, our love was kinda crazy. It was tumultuous.

BONUS:
How do you feel now about your first sexual experiences?

I’ve always felt really good about my first sexual experiences. They happened exactly as I wanted them to at the time, and I don’t think I ever felt uncomfortable about a single one of them.

I was with someone who loved me and whom I loved. We both respected each other and each other’s bodies. Although our first sexperiences weren’t overly romantic and weren’t made out to be these “special moments”, they were perfect and there was no pressure and I think they gave me a really great foundation for my future sexplorations.


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Working on #WTMFIWednesdays

So, as some of you may remember from the post WTMFI Wednesdays: Should it return?, I had been considering bringing back the meme that I started back in 2010. Then, I posted on Google+ that I was officially working on the project – and I have been!!!

Blog-a-holic that I am, I’ve started a brand new website for the project and I personally think it is some of my best work to date. At the moment, it’s well-organized, laid out great and super SEO friendly (which is a huge first for me!) – and I imagine as sessions and submissions get added, it’s only going to get better!!!

Today, I want to give you a bit of a sneak peek into what’s coming up. We will be starting our first session on November 1st, 2017. In the lead-up, any thoughts or ideas or opinions that you have, I invite you to leave in the comments below. And if you’re just excited about the return of WTMFI Wednesdays, like me, then give this post a like!!!


What is WTMFI Wednesdays?

WTMFI Wednesdays

WTMFI (Way Too Much F***ing Information) Wednesdays

A weekly sex meme arousing discussions on sexuality.

How does WTMFI Wednesdays work?

Every Wednesday, at a yet to be determined time, a new Session goes live on wtmfi.com.

Each session includes 5 + 1 questions about a topic related to sexuality based on one of our weekly themes. Topics dictate the subject matter of the questions and themes dictate the structure of the questions.

Users are invited to answer any and all of the questions in any manner they prefer – all we ask is that you do us a couple favors – and you can participate by submitting in any of the ways listed below.

How do I participate in WTMFI Wednesdays?

How to Participate in WTMFI Wednesdays

We offer a variety of ways for you to participate in WTMFI Wednesdays – we don’t want anyone to be left out and we want everyone to feel comfortable at whatever level of internet they are. So, we’ve got options as simple as “Add your Comment” or “Become a Registered Participant” to more difficult options like “Post to Our Tumblr” or “Post to Your Own Blog“.

What happens when I become a Registered Participant?

I’m personally most excited for this aspect of WTMFI Wednesdays!

First and foremost, becoming a registered participant is and always will be free. You won’t ever have to pay for anything on wtmfi.com – EVER! Not unless all of a sudden you aren’t allowed to have websites that don’t charge or look at websites that don’t charge or some absurd law I’m sure Trump is all over!

And what happens?

  1. You get a Profile

    Tell other people that visit our website who you are. Upload an avatar and a profile cover photo, post status updates and get access to all of your other features.

  2. Connections (Followers, Compliments and More)

    Connect with other participants of WTMFI Wednesdays. Follow other users so you can see when and where they’re submitting (plus any other activity they’re up to around the site) and earn and send compliments based on your activity around the site.

  3. Session Groups

    Every session has it’s own group. You can connect with other participants in a particular session and have deeper discussions about the theme and topics of that session.

  4. Forums

    From news and support to discussions on the themes and topics of various sessions, you can even make tons of suggestions for questions!

  5. Gamification (Points, Ranks, Badges and More)

    Earn points for almost every action you take as a registered participant on WTMFI Wednesdays. Climb up the ranks from Newbie to Gold to Ruby. Unlock badges for completing achievements. And there’s more…


The official site for WTMFI Wednesdays, http://wtmfi.com/, will go live a few hours before we begin posting questions for Session #1 on November 1st, 2017. It’ll give you enough time to get familiar with the site, register and set up your profile.

Be sure to follow WTMFI Wednesdays on Google+, Facebook and Twitter to find out when the site is open and to get updates on new sessions. And if you want to get some behind-the-scenes news and such, you can check out our Blogger.

Don’t forget to let me know if you plan on participating in the comments below. I know I am!

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Projects Underway

I have been a very busy girl over the last few days. Lots of online work getting done and plenty of projects underway!

The Erotic Writers Group has probably been the top of my priority list this week. Summer always seems to bring me a lot of inspiration for the group and I always do a lot of work during the summer months. I am determined, utterly, to re-launch this thing by the end of the year. I’ve said it almost every year, but I’m working harder than ever!

The first big thing that I plan to bring back for The Erotic Writers Group is our #WritingPrompts for #EroticWriters. I seriously miss doing these so much, I miss using the prompts and I miss the community building these provided for us. I’ve got plans like crazy and now it’s just a matter of sorting it all out and getting down to the details of it.

I’m seriously thinking that I need to write a few posts about all the lessons I’m learning and utilizing this time around with my processes.

I’ve also been working on a few of my own personal projects.

I suddenly had the idea one day to compile all of my erotic limericks into a book. This has since evolved and changed and become a pretty amazing set of ideas and I have been utterly consumed by this project – and it shows across all of my social networks! I even officially #BucketListed: Publish My First Book. And in the last few days have written about 30 new limericks. Who knows when/if this project will finish but it is something that I’m working on.

Finally, I’ve almost completed work on the return of WTMFI (Way Too Much F***ing Information) Wednesdays. I’ve just got a few tweaks to make and then it’s time to start queuing up the questions and then, promotion. I’m super excited to bring this back. It’s interesting to me that while the world of TV and movies is in reboot mania, so am I! But it’s fun and I’m enjoying the inspiration!

Also, The Mermaid is coming along – albeit very slowly. It’s turning out much longer than I had anticipated it would be, which is a good thing, so far. It has definitely taken a backseat to these other projects, but I add a few paragraphs here and there every couple of days and am continuously collecting up inspiration and information to keep myself going.

Needless to sayI have been a very busy girl over the last few days. Lots of online work getting done and plenty of projects underway!

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WTMFI Wednesdays – Should it return?

Way back in 2010, I was publishing two blogs: The Rantings of a Tortured Mind – PG Edition and The Rantings of a Tortured Mind – XXX Edition. On the latter, I wrote about the beginnings of mine and The Boyfriend’s relationship, my kinky sexual desires and I began the weekly meme all about sex, WTMFI (Way Too Much F***ing Information) Wednesdays.

WTMFI Wednesdays
WTMFI Wednesdays

For 26 weeks, every Wednesday, five questions (plus a bonus) would be posted to my blog. I would add my own answers and invite readers to participate. It was the first time in my life that I experienced knowing that people were reading my blog and I even had a regular participant create a Twitter hashtag for me – which at the time was brand new to me, I had never used hashtags before.

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 1: The First Time

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 2: Masturbation

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 3: Pornography

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 4: Have You Ever… #1

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 5: Would You Rather… #1

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 6: Adult Toys

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 7: Erotic Inspiration #1

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 8: Have You Ever… #2

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 9: Sexuality 101

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 10: Would You Rather… #2

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 11: Orgasms

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 12: Body Modification

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 13: Erotic Inspiration #2

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 14: Have You Ever… #3

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 15: Sexting

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 16: Monogamy Isn’t a Type of Wood

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 17: For Women Only

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 18: For Men Only

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 19: Couple’s Retreat

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 20: Would You Rather… #3

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 21: Have You Ever… #5

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 22: Anal Explorations

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 23: Sex & Music

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 24: Exhibitionist’s Delight

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 25: Would You Rather… #4

WTMFI Wednesdays – Week 26: BDSM 101

I miss doing these! So much! Not only was it fun to try and think up all the questions, it was awesome to get to answer a lot of them and I loved that it forced me to regularly blog. I’m totally considering restarting and bringing back WTMFI Wednesdays. What do you think?!?

Would you like to see WTMFI Wednesdays return? Would you participate?