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Looking Forward to 2018

Over the last couple of posts, I’ve been looking to the past as most of us do, as one year comes to an ending and another begins. First, I looked at some of my stats for my 2017 in Review and then I took a walk down memory lane and looked back over some of the more memorable moments of the year in Looking Back on 2017.

But now, there’s no more looking back to be done. There’s only time for looking ahead!

I’ve got some pretty big goals coming up this year. I had hoped to get a lot more done in 2017 than I did, especially in terms of blogging-related goals, but it ended up being a much busier year in real life. This year is also going to be pretty busy, but I’m getting sick of all these things sitting on the back burner.

So, here’s some of the things I have planned to do in 2018.


  • Start publishing WTMFI Wednesdays on Wednesdays

    I currently publish each session of WTMFI Wednesdays whenever I get around to it. At the time of publishing this post, I’m 3 sessions behind! I’d love to start publishing these on Wednesdays! Gotta catch up first…

  • Start doing other memes or bring back past memes

    I love memes, like a lot. They are a great way to get constant inspiration and to consistently post on your blog. I have done a few of these in the past and would like to start adding more to my repertoire. Some of them, I’d like to participate in regularly and some just every once and awhile.

    • #MasturbationMonday

      Hosted by Kayla Lords, Masturbation Monday challenges you to “write a steamy hot post about masturbation or so hot, it’ll make people want to masturbate.” I’ve never done this one, but would love to!

    • #TMITuesday

      In the vein of WTMFI Wednesdays (and probably about as old), TMI Tuesday “is a confessional of sorts where people come to reveal too much information–sexy secrets, dirty deeds, and more.” I’ve never done this one, but have always wanted to!

    • #WickedWednesday

      Wicked Wednesday is a “place where you can share your wicked sexiness or your sexy wickedness! Be creative and share!” I’ve never done this one, but think it could be fun to do every once and awhile.

    • #ThrowbackThursday

      I previously did these recap posts of my #ThrowbackThursday’s on Facebook. I still haven’t found an easy way to be able to just see these posts, so I was collecting them up myself! I want to start doing this again!

    • #FridayFavorites

      I’m a lot of places all over the web. Sometimes it’s hard to keep up with what I’m doing everywhere. So, #FridayFavorites served as a place to show you all of the stuff – from my favorite Tumblr post of the week to my favorite Tweet. I really enjoyed doing these, so I’m bringing it back!

    • #SaturdaySerenade

      #SaturdaySerenade used to be a poetry hashtag used by The Erotic Writers Group. I’m stealing it and also transforming it into a song hashtag. I plan to use it every Saturday to share musical-type things with you. You can expect to see song lyrics written by me or song lyrics that I just absolutely love and YouTube cover videos.

    • #TumblrFavorites

      Back in the day, every 3 months, you could expect to see a #TumblrFavorites post. I’d do a rundown of all the best posts to my Tumblr over that time period. I seriously miss doing these and I miss Tumblr, so I’m bringing it back!

  • Publish my first book of erotic limericks

    I’ve been working on this project for about half a year now. I decided awhile ago that it was on the list to publish my first book and also decided that that first book would be a collection of erotic limericks written by me. They’re my favorite type of poem, I love writing them and that’s why it’s going to be my first book!

  • Finish The Mermaid

    I was challenged by a member of The Erotic Writers Group last year to write a story about a mermaid. And I’ve been working mighty hard on this story on and off since I was challenged. I’m determined to have this finished this year!!!

  • Complete the first draft of The Brighton Tales

    The Brighton Tales has been a story in my head for almost a decade. I have every intention of getting this at least somewhat more complete this year. I want to get it to the point where I have the whole thing down on paper and out of my head!

  • Re-launch The Erotic Writers Group (I say this every year)

    Every year I say it and every year I mean it!

    As the creator and founder of The Erotic Writers Group, it’s my responsibility to maintain and expand this community for readers and writers of erotica. Some years, I’m absolutely amazing and the group thrives and does great. Other years, I’m a total slacker and basically just let the group do it’s thing.

    For years, I’ve been wanting to really dedicate a lot of my effort into this group. Get the website that I’ve been talking about going, post regularly and make products and publish books and the list really goes on and on and on.

    This year, I want to buckle down hard!!! Prioritize this like crazy and finally, finally bring my vision to life!!!

  • Start posting videos on Pornhub again…

    It’s been quite awhile since The Boyfriend and I posted videos on Pornhub. It wasn’t a planned experience, so we didn’t plan to keep posting. But we’ve both expressed an interest in doing more. We’ve got tons of ideas and now it’s just a matter of following through.

  • Take a lot more pictures of everything!!!

    I keep getting Facebook memories that make me think, “I should’ve gotten a picture of that!“. There’s so many memories that we’re missing out on. Plus, there’s a new baby about to be a part of our family. Always good to take lots of pictures during that time, since it goes so fast! I also want to become a better photographer and practice makes perfect.

  • Make more products for my Zazzle store

    I bet you didn’t even know I have a Zazzle store... I do and I even have some products. When I do work on this, I work pretty hard. However, I’m likely to forget it even exists for a long time. More designs, more products, more promotion!!!

  • Start playing a Sims 4 Legacy Challenge

    Way back in March, I had asked which legacy challenge I should do as my first Sims 4 challenge after my hiatus. However, I never got around to starting any challenges. I recently ran a poll on my Facebook page asking if I should even bother with the Sims 4 on ValerieRayne.com.

    Either way, I want to play a Sims 4 Legacy Challenge – even if I don’t blog about it!

  • Write something erotic once a week

    Currently, I publish erotica all willy-nilly. I want to do it a lot more!!! I think if I could dedicate myself to writing one erotic thing once a week, I’d be very happy.

  • Write a poem or song once a week

    I used to write poems/songs daily. Now, I’m lucky if it happens once or twice a year. Honestly, this year I’d just like to be more creative in general. And I really want to expand my original songs repertoire, because right now, it’s super tiny!

  • Record a new cover or original to YouTube once a month

    It’s always been a goal of mine to become more active on my YouTube channel. I’d love to be able to add a new video at least once a month. Eventually, I’d love to do a daily vlog too, but really I just need to get comfortable with a little bit more consistency on there!

  • Check into my Tumblr at least once a week

    I was doing a great job of this for quite a long time. And then, I went through a period of rarely ever being aroused and Tumblr really went to the way back burner. I haven’t even looked at it in a few weeks now… It’s time to get back to the good ole days and check into my Tumblr more often!!!

  • Participate in the Goodreads reading challenge

    I have been participating in this for a few years now. Usually, I set the bar way too high and never come even close to the mark. Last year, I set the bar incredibly low with only 1 book to read and of course, did it. This year, I want to actually challenge myself but also make it a reachable goal, so I’ve chosen to try to read 13 books (one for each month and one for good luck 😉)

  • Buy and review an erotic eBook once a month

    Currently, I don’t read any erotica. I never seem to be able to find the time or the space to just sit down and do it. But I really want to support some of the people who have supported me over the years – especially members of The Erotic Writers Group. I also want to try my hand at writing reviews 😉

  • Figure out a way to offer audio of all of my blog posts

    I don’t know why, but I’ve been obsessed with this idea for about half a year now. First of all, I think sometimes my writing comes off as confusing because you can’t get my tone or inflection through commas and exclamation points! Also, I know there is an audience, especially for posts like my erotica or sexperiences.

    I haven’t figured out how I want to do this or what exactly I want it to be like (so if you have any suggestions…), I just know that I’ve been obsessed with the idea and so I have to figure out how to do it!


Ultimately, we can sum up all my goals for the year into three words: More, Consistency and Creativity.  I want to be more consistent and I want to be more creative. I want to finish something, not just start it. Now, it’s just a matter of getting it done!!!

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#ThrowbackThursday on Facebook – Recap #5

On December 1st, 2016, I began taking a walk down memory lane. I became a #NostalgiaJunkie.

In preparation for re-launching ValerieRayne.com, I thought it was important to look over all of what I’ve done over the years to see what worked and what didn’t and where I wanted things to go. Sometimes it’s good to look back to move forward.

So, I began collecting up all these memories on Facebook for #ThrowbackThursday.

I thought it would be fun to keep a running recap of them, since it can be a bit of a pain to find them all on Facebook (if you know an easy way, then let me know in the comments!). Here’s 7 memories and the next 7 will be coming soon!


Posted on Thurs. Jun. 15th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Jun. 29th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Jul. 6th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Jul. 13th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Jul. 20th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Jul. 27th, 2017:


Well, there you have it. A handy little recap of all my #ThrowbackThursday posts on Facebook.

If you haven’t liked my page yet, I’d love for you to give it a thumbs up and say “hi“. Do you do #ThrowbackThursday on any social networks? Share your experience with me in the comments below and if you liked this post, please share it or click the Like button below!

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#ThrowbackThursday on Facebook – Recap #4

On December 1st, 2016, I began taking a walk down memory lane. I became a #NostalgiaJunkie.

In preparation for re-launching ValerieRayne.com, I thought it was important to look over all of what I’ve done over the years to see what worked and what didn’t and where I wanted things to go. Sometimes it’s good to look back to move forward.

So, I began collecting up all these memories on Facebook for #ThrowbackThursday.

I thought it would be fun to keep a running recap of them, since it can be a bit of a pain to find them all on Facebook (if you know an easy way, then let me know in the comments!). Here’s 7 memories and the next 7 will be coming soon!


Posted on Thurs. Apr. 27th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. May. 11th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. May. 18th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. May. 25th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Jun. 1st, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Jun. 8th, 2017:


Well, there you have it. A handy little recap of all my #ThrowbackThursday posts on Facebook.

If you haven’t liked my page yet, I’d love for you to give it a thumbs up and say “hi“. Do you do #ThrowbackThursday on any social networks? Share your experience with me in the comments below and if you liked this post, please share it or click the Like button below!

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#ThrowbackThursday on Facebook – Recap #3

On December 1st, 2016, I began taking a walk down memory lane. I became a #NostalgiaJunkie.

In preparation for re-launching ValerieRayne.com, I thought it was important to look over all of what I’ve done over the years to see what worked and what didn’t and where I wanted things to go. Sometimes it’s good to look back to move forward.

So, I began collecting up all these memories on Facebook for #ThrowbackThursday.

I thought it would be fun to keep a running recap of them, since it can be a bit of a pain to find them all on Facebook (if you know an easy way, then let me know in the comments!). Here’s 7 memories and the next 7 will be coming soon!


Posted on Thurs. Mar. 9th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Mar. 23rd, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Mar. 30th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Apr. 6th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Apr. 13th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Apr. 20th, 2017:


Well, there you have it. A handy little recap of all my #ThrowbackThursday posts on Facebook.

If you haven’t liked my page yet, I’d love for you to give it a thumbs up and say “hi“. Do you do #ThrowbackThursday on any social networks? Share your experience with me in the comments below and if you liked this post, please share it or click the Like button below!

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#ThrowbackThursday on Facebook – Recap #2

On December 1st, 2016, I began taking a walk down memory lane. I became a #NostalgiaJunkie.

In preparation for re-launching ValerieRayne.com, I thought it was important to look over all of what I’ve done over the years to see what worked and what didn’t and where I wanted things to go. Sometimes it’s good to look back to move forward.

So, I began collecting up all these memories on Facebook for #ThrowbackThursday.

I thought it would be fun to keep a running recap of them, since it can be a bit of a pain to find them all on Facebook (if you know an easy way, then let me know in the comments!). Here’s 7 memories I and the next 7 will be coming soon!


Posted on Thurs. Jan. 19th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Feb. 2nd, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Feb. 9th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Feb. 16th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Feb. 23rd, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Mar. 2nd, 2017:


Well, there you have it. A handy little recap of all my #ThrowbackThursday posts on Facebook.

If you haven’t liked my page yet, I’d love for you to give it a thumbs up and say “hi“. Do you do #ThrowbackThursday on any social networks? Share your experience with me in the comments below and if you liked this post, please share it or click the Like button below!

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#ThrowbackThursday on Facebook – Recap #1

On December 1st, 2016, I began taking a walk down memory lane. I became a #NostalgiaJunkie.

In preparation for re-launching ValerieRayne.com, I thought it was important to look over all of what I’ve done over the years to see what worked and what didn’t and where I wanted things to go. Sometimes it’s good to look back to move forward.

So, I began collecting up all these memories on Facebook for #ThrowbackThursday.

I thought it would be fun to keep a running recap of them, since it can be a bit of a pain to find them all on Facebook (if you know an easy way, then let me know in the comments!). Here’s the first 7 memories I ever posted and the next 7 will be coming soon!


Posted on Thurs. Dec. 1st, 2016:


Posted on Thurs. Dec. 15th, 2016:


Posted on Thurs. Dec. 22nd, 2016:


Posted on Thurs. Dec. 29th, 2016:


Posted on Thurs. Jan. 5th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Jan. 12th, 2017:


Well, there you have it. A handy little recap of all my #ThrowbackThursday posts on Facebook.

If you haven’t liked my page yet, I’d love for you to give it a thumbs up and say “hi“. Do you do #ThrowbackThursday on any social networks? Share your experience with me in the comments below and if you liked this post, please share it or click the Like button below!

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The Boyfriend’s Been Tweeting!

So, The Boyfriend joined Twitter about 3 years ago now.

I’m not sure what spurred him joining Twitter. Pretty sure it was the release of some game, probably something to do with beta-testing, and it sent him on a journey of recording gameclips and considering starting his own gaming site – which is something we both consider doing from time to time, especially being that the whole family desperately wants to be YouTube gamers (except for the girls, who still want to be on YouTube, just not for games…).


2015 was a busy year for him on Twitter and in the gaming world in general. Lots of really great new games including Star Wars Battlefront, Halo 5 Guardians, Fallout 4, plus the release of the Star Wars: The Force Awakens trailer.


2016, he barely tweeted at all. Probably because we lost the cellphone that had the app that he used and he’s not a computer guy and only recently re-added the app on his tablet…


So now, it’s 2017, and he’s slowly making his comeback.

My favorite part so far has been all the old pictures he’s been posting as he’s been spending the last two days staying up late just so he can walk down memory lane. More than once every day for the last two, we’ve both stated, “Can’t believe it’s been 9 years…!“. And while we still technically have a few months to go until we’re officially at 9 years, we’re over the halfway mark, so we just call it 9 😉


So now, I totally invite you to go follow @Bukshot7, because he totally needs more than just cam girls following him! Personally, my favorite tweet is the “There are many reasons why @ValerieRayne13 (that’s me!) is the love of my life…” one, but I’m biased. What’s yours?

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#ThrowbackThursday – 101 Things About Me (2010 Edition)

Over the years on my blogs, I’ve experimented with a variety of formats and content. Back in 2010, The Rantings of a Tortured Mind not only had these awesome biographies of each of the kids, it also had a “101 Things About Me” page, which was incredibly difficult to make. It’s amazing how little and how much has changed in the last 6 years. Enjoy this blast from the past!

101 Things About Me - The Rantings of a Tortured Mind (2013)

Things That Have Changed…

Much of this list would still be the same today as it was back in 2010. Save for a few things…

#15 – I have a moderate-to-severe heart murmur

Not anymore! About six months after Carter was born, I went for an echocardiogram and the murmur had gone away entirely. To think that we were talking about synthetic valves and then just a few months later, the whole problem goes out the window!

#19 – At one time, I had 12 different blogs. Now narrowed down to 4… It’s a bit of an addiction!

For almost a year now, I have successfully only had 2 blogs – this one and my Tumblr. It’s far less of an addiction now than it ever was before, although I’ll never stop being a blog-a-holic.

#24 – I love playing videogames, my favorite console being the PS3.

I haven’t played a PS3 in a really long time. Because it’s the only console I use now, I have to say my favorite console is the Xbox One. However, the reality is that when it comes to games, you’re more likely to find me playing The Sims 4 on my PC!

#36 – My longest relationship has been 6 years, my shortest 2 years.

The Boyfriend and I are coming up on our 8th anniversary this summer, so now my longest relationship has been 8 years and my shortest has been 2 years.

#61 – I enjoy collecting dead rose petals.

I no longer collect anything. I have an extensive collection of vinyls, but that’s not something I went out of my way to collect. I have not received flowers once in the 8 years that The Boyfriend and I have been together.

#94 – I avoid the stationery section of most stores…

Not anymore! I have successfully walked through that section multiple times in the last couple of years and walked out empty-handed and feeling fine. The kids like to use up and lose all my papers/journals/pens, so I just stopped getting them. Again, no collecting here!

#95 – I take a 4 cream 5 sugar please!

It only took him 6 years, but after much determination and plenty of trial and error, The Boyfriend managed to get me down to a triple triple. We now drink the exact same kind of coffee, although I drink far less now than I did back then. This pregnancy isn’t very fond of coffee either, so I’m down to about one cup a day – sometimes less.

Interesting! 7 things – that’s all that’s changed in about 6 years. It feels like a lot more has happened in that time but I guess the fundamentals will probably always be the same.

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#FridayFavorites: For the Week of August 14 – 21

Ever wanted to be able to see what I’m up to all over the web without actually having to go all over the web? Well, now you can with #FridayFavorites. Join me every Friday to see my favorite finds and posts over the last week.

Favorite Facebook Update

This week, I was hard at work getting all my pictures and videos organized and ran across this Facebook video, that was just perfect for #ThrowbackThursday.

Like Me on Facebook

Favorite Instagram Photo

In the process of organizing photos, I came across this quick shot of The Boyfriend and I from the day we took the kids to the spray park.

Follow Me on Instagram

Favorite Pinterest Board

My Beautiful Buildings board showcases architecture of all type that I really enjoy. From entire buildings to stairs and doors that are simply breathtaking.
Follow Valerie’s board Beautiful Buildings on Pinterest.

Follow Me on Pinterest

Favorite Google+ Update

This week, one of my favorite Google+ers shared a great post she had written and I had just had to share it with all of you!

Circle Me on Google+

Favorite Tweet

Hope I’m able to watch some of the livestream of the Morpheous Bondage Extravaganza again this year, and one day, maybe I’ll even get to attend 😉

Follow Me on Twitter

Favorite Posts

In case you might’ve missed them over the last little while, here’s my favorite posts from around here over the last week…

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Favorite YouTube Video

A few years back, I got really into belly dancing. I still dream of someday doing it. I get stuck watching videos from Tribal Fest and thought this one was brilliant!

Subscribe to My Channel

Well, that’s my #FridayFavorites.

I encourage you to follow me wherever you are and if you have favorites that are different than mine, let me know what you loved in the comments below! And be sure to join me next Friday for another installment of #FridayFavorites – what will I find?