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#ThrowbackThursday on Facebook – Recap #3

On December 1st, 2016, I began taking a walk down memory lane. I became a #NostalgiaJunkie.

In preparation for re-launching ValerieRayne.com, I thought it was important to look over all of what I’ve done over the years to see what worked and what didn’t and where I wanted things to go. Sometimes it’s good to look back to move forward.

So, I began collecting up all these memories on Facebook for #ThrowbackThursday.

I thought it would be fun to keep a running recap of them, since it can be a bit of a pain to find them all on Facebook (if you know an easy way, then let me know in the comments!). Here’s 7 memories and the next 7 will be coming soon!


Posted on Thurs. Mar. 9th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Mar. 23rd, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Mar. 30th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Apr. 6th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Apr. 13th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Apr. 20th, 2017:


Well, there you have it. A handy little recap of all my #ThrowbackThursday posts on Facebook.

If you haven’t liked my page yet, I’d love for you to give it a thumbs up and say “hi“. Do you do #ThrowbackThursday on any social networks? Share your experience with me in the comments below and if you liked this post, please share it or click the Like button below!

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#ThrowbackThursday on Facebook – Recap #2

On December 1st, 2016, I began taking a walk down memory lane. I became a #NostalgiaJunkie.

In preparation for re-launching ValerieRayne.com, I thought it was important to look over all of what I’ve done over the years to see what worked and what didn’t and where I wanted things to go. Sometimes it’s good to look back to move forward.

So, I began collecting up all these memories on Facebook for #ThrowbackThursday.

I thought it would be fun to keep a running recap of them, since it can be a bit of a pain to find them all on Facebook (if you know an easy way, then let me know in the comments!). Here’s 7 memories I and the next 7 will be coming soon!


Posted on Thurs. Jan. 19th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Feb. 2nd, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Feb. 9th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Feb. 16th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Feb. 23rd, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Mar. 2nd, 2017:


Well, there you have it. A handy little recap of all my #ThrowbackThursday posts on Facebook.

If you haven’t liked my page yet, I’d love for you to give it a thumbs up and say “hi“. Do you do #ThrowbackThursday on any social networks? Share your experience with me in the comments below and if you liked this post, please share it or click the Like button below!

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We Got “Our Baby” Back

It’s been a few weeks since our van was stolen. After a week, they found her but she needed to get a few repairs. They also completely cleaned her for us. And today, we officially took back possession of our van. I have felt amazing all day!

I had no problem falling out of love with the truck after pressing down on the brake pedal of “our baby” again. I immediately remembered all the reasons I loved her and how much I had missed her and “screw that truck!”. Thank goodness too, because I thought I’d always be wishing for that beautiful driving experience, but nope!

Then, went down to Heritage Ranch and looked at the horses and let Cazzwell crawl around in the grass. It was such a beautiful day – just the right kind of hot as long as there was shade about, clear blue skies that went on forever and this most splendidly gentle breeze. It was hard to go back inside, but glad that I did because the house was so cool!!!

The Boyfriend had mentioned that he had heard rumors that The Sims 4 was coming to console. Upon returning from our visit with the horses, I got word straight from the horses mouth that yes, The Sims 4 is coming to console. And had a little mini game-gasm. YAY!!!

Now the plan for the rest of the night is to clean my living room, write a few blog posts (since I’ve got a few things on my mind), and then I think I’m going to work on The Mermaid. And then, I’m going to veg and try to finish Switched at Birth before going to bed. Sounds like a great way to cap off a great day!

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I Wanna Grow Old With You

Unbeknownst to The Boyfriend, I recorded this cover of Adam Sandler’s “Grow Old With You” from the 1998 movie, The Wedding Singer. Then, on our 9-year anniversary, uploaded it to Facebook (so that he would see it!). And the lyrics are so true for us!!!

I wanna make you smile whenever you’re sad
Carry you around when your arthritis is bad
All I wanna do is grow old with you

I’ll get your medicine when your tummy aches
Build you a fire if the furnace breaks
Oh it could be so nice, growing old with you

I’ll miss you
Kiss you
Give you my coat when you are cold

Need you
Feed you
Even let ya hold the remote control

So let me do the dishes in our kitchen sink
Put you to bed if you’ve had too much to drink
I could be the man who grows old with you
I wanna grow old with you

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#ThrowbackThursday on Facebook – Recap #1

On December 1st, 2016, I began taking a walk down memory lane. I became a #NostalgiaJunkie.

In preparation for re-launching ValerieRayne.com, I thought it was important to look over all of what I’ve done over the years to see what worked and what didn’t and where I wanted things to go. Sometimes it’s good to look back to move forward.

So, I began collecting up all these memories on Facebook for #ThrowbackThursday.

I thought it would be fun to keep a running recap of them, since it can be a bit of a pain to find them all on Facebook (if you know an easy way, then let me know in the comments!). Here’s the first 7 memories I ever posted and the next 7 will be coming soon!


Posted on Thurs. Dec. 1st, 2016:


Posted on Thurs. Dec. 15th, 2016:


Posted on Thurs. Dec. 22nd, 2016:


Posted on Thurs. Dec. 29th, 2016:


Posted on Thurs. Jan. 5th, 2017:


Posted on Thurs. Jan. 12th, 2017:


Well, there you have it. A handy little recap of all my #ThrowbackThursday posts on Facebook.

If you haven’t liked my page yet, I’d love for you to give it a thumbs up and say “hi“. Do you do #ThrowbackThursday on any social networks? Share your experience with me in the comments below and if you liked this post, please share it or click the Like button below!

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Ways to Support #EroticWriters

I know I haven’t written in a few days, I’ve been super busy elsewhere. And this is one of those things that I’ve been busy with. So, I thought I’d share this little tidbit with all of you!

For the last couple of days in The Erotic Writers Group Google+ Community, we’ve been discussing the various ways that our members support their favorite writers. For the most part, response has been sporadic – mostly because a large majority of our community is made up of #EroticWriters and this question was more for #EroticReaders.

I spent some time thinking about how I currently support writers. Now, I don’t often spend a lot of time reading present day erotica – something that I’ve always been honest about and that I’m desperate to change – I’m one of those members in the group who considers herself to be more of a writer than a reader. However, I think that there are many ways that I support writers and definitely a lot more things I’d like to be doing. So, I added my two cents to the discussion on my Facebook page (although for some reason, I can’t embed any Facebook posts and I can’t figure out a workaround… So links and quotes it is…)!

First, The Erotic Writers Group Facebook page recapped the discussion:

#EroticReaders We’ve been discussing ways to support your favorite #EroticWriters everywhere and now we want to open up the floor to you.

From Google+, we’ve had:
https://plus.google.com/+Eroticwritersgro…/posts/Q69591ZLx9v

– Promote giveaways
– Write blog posts
– Write and post reviews

From Twitter, we’ve had:
https://twitter.com/Erotic_Writers/status/855501202246647808

– Support on Patreon

So, what do you think could be added to this list? What are some of the ways you support your favorite writers? What are some of the ways you wish you could support your favorite writers?”

And then, my two cents…:

“Some of the ways I support my favorite writers:

– Follow them on social networks
– Read their blog posts and if it’s good or sparks a thought, share and/or comment
– Reach out to them through The Erotic Writers Group and/or Google+ (since that’s where almost all of my writing-related stuff happens)

Some of the ways I wish I supported my favorite writers:

– Read a lot more!!!
– Bought their entire libraries of books
– Bought additional merch when it’s offered
– Go to meetups and book signings (not often offered from #EroticWriters – but how awesome would it be if it was!!!)
– Co-writing!!!

So, what are some of the ways that you support your favorite writers or wish you could?”

Now I definitely want to open up the floor to you, dear reader. Either in the comments or in response to any of the discussions above, whichever one works for you. And if you aren’t a member of The Erotic Writers Group Google+ Community, but enjoy erotica, then I definitely suggest joining this group of #EroticWriters and #EroticReaders where we connect, share, learn and inspire!

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It’s Not That I Hate Lingerie…

In February, I tweeted:

The “wear more lingerie” line stuck out to me, because 2 years ago, The Boyfriend and I were going through a lull – as we do from time to time. In Awkward Conversations, “he praddled off his ideas of how we could fix this problem – including me buying lingerie, me being more forceful, me kicking him off of games earlier, me wearing a bra (so he has something to take off, not that he takes off any of the clothes I currently wear…), me doing this and me doing that and me working my ass off to make him attracted to me.“.

And every time I read studies like this, I am just always shocked how the sexual health of a relationship is always put on the woman’s shoulders. Okay, and obviously not always, but more often than not!

I am a woman who doesn’t wear underwear. If you didn’t know that about me, now you do!

I grew up with very small breasts. Basically, I had nipples. I would wear bras, but the smallest sizes were still too big for me. I still wore them though because I had been absolutely convinced that if I didn’t, even my tiny breasts would sag. I had Kaeidyn and began wearing bras because I had jumped from under an A cup to a C cup and attempted to breastfeed and then stopped abruptly and the whole entirety of my social circle yelled at me that without a bra, my breasts would sag and look terrible.

Then, I had Kenzie. With Kaeidyn, I didn’t get to breastfeed even though I had desperately wanted it. I tried for a few days but my milk had become infected. Kenzie took to the breast with ease and I was able to go for a couple months with him. But then, he stopped getting anything nutritional from me and would spend hours sucking away and getting nothing. He was constantly starving and my chapped nipples couldn’t keep up. Two days into this and I became incredibly engorged.

The bra came off and never went back on!

Underwear is a sporadic thing for me. I always have a couple pairs on hand for period week and if I get a yeast infection or am wearing jeans, I won’t go without them. But, for the most part, I’m always without my underwear. I basically moved out of my Mom’s house and it became a thing to do every once and awhile and now, probably because of laziness more than anything, I hardly ever wear underwear.

And why can’t that be just as sexy as the girl who chooses to wear lace and crotchless panties?

I ranted on Facebook around the same time as the awkward conversation two years ago, “You know what’s annoying about lingerie…?

They do not show it on bodies of Mom’s, who have curves in all the “wrong” places – so everything that even hints at the showing off a baby belly immediately feels like it’s just “not for you”.

Then, they show these beautiful pristine models in these awkward poses that no way in hell the average woman is going to do – hell, even know to do.

And seriously, why do we all have to be barbie dolls for our men?!? He can wear boxers that cost him $5, I have to wear lingerie that costs me $50 and isn’t even flattering to who I am as a person….

I freaking love lingerie. I look at it all the time. I imagine myself wearing it regularly. I hope to one day make some of my own! I don’t, by any means, hate lingerie. But sometimes, I seriously hate that I’m SUPPOSED to love it. And that I’m SUPPOSED to wear it to keep my man interested in me!!!

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Introducing Baby #5

I can’t believe that I haven’t written anything in such a long time. I kept meaning to and then everything kept getting in the way of it. First was a terrible start to the New Year with a lot of arguments and upset. I spent the first three days of January in tears. Then, I ended up being sick for a few weeks and my butt was being thoroughly kicked. Then, I found out some news that I wasn’t expecting and have only now started to end my total denial.

I kept asking, the whole three weeks that I was beyond sick, “Why is no one else getting sick?“. Usually colds or flus in our house go through each member of the family like clockwork. One person get sick and then the next one and then the next one, until it’s touched each and every one of us. But no one else was getting sick, just me. I was convinced that I was dying of some horrible disease and I was terrified of going to the doctor to find out that I was dying.

A friend of mine messaged me one night, concerned that I was still sick after so long. Together, we went hunting around the internet to find out what was wrong. At the time, my symptoms included severe breast pain and constant nausea. The only things we could find that fit my symptoms were either PMS or pregnancy. After a long conversation, I finally gave in and asked The Boyfriend to bring home a pregnancy test.

I honestly did not think that I was pregnant, at all. Over the last six years, we’ve had many “scares”. And every time, I get the pregnancy test and it comes back negative and the next day, my period starts. I just assumed that that would happen again. As the lines for positive popped up before I had even finished, I began to shake and sweat. It was not what I was expecting.

Telling The Boyfriend was fun. He was sleeping and I went up immediately and woke him up. He rolled over and smiled at me like he always does and I said, “So, you ready for baby #5?” and he took a few minutes to realize that we only had four kids, so obviously that must mean she’s pregnant. A huge smile spread across his face and stayed there for easily a week. He’s been entirely excited by the whole thing.

We told all our family that same day. His Mom and Sister were first, because we knew we’d get nothing but support from them. Then, we told my Mom and her reaction was exactly what I had expected it to be. I knew that his side of the family would be happy – for him, it’s only really his second child. My family, on the other hand, thinks I should’ve gotten my tubes tied years ago. Plus, my Mom always starts out disappointed and then quickly comes around to being my biggest supporter.

We went for our first prenatal appointment. My blood pressure was pretty high, so the doctor asked if I could check my blood pressure over the next two weeks and then come back in for another appointment. We were hoping it would give some clear answer as to whether or not I should be medicated for high blood pressure at this point, but it didn’t. So, now we’re ordering a 24-hour blood pressure monitor to get a more accurate picture of what’s going on.

We also got to go for our first ultrasound. It was such a fast experience but The Boyfriend and I were ecstatic to get to see the baby and it was even more exciting to come home and show the other kids, who are all incredibly excited about having a baby in the house. Everyone but Carter is hoping that it will be a girl, because we have enough boys!

This week, we go for blood tests and then next week is our second prenatal appointment. I keep saying that it feels like doing it all for the first time – even though I’ve been pregnant four times before this. It’s interesting to see how much has changed for pregnant people in the last six years. At first, the uncertainty of it all really terrified me, but now I’m embracing it a little more and feeling a bit more comfortable.

It’s going to be so strange to have a baby around after so long of not having babies around…

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#FridayFavorites: For the Week of December 11 – 18

Ever wanted to be able to see what I’m up to all over the web without actually having to go all over the web? Well, now you can with #FridayFavorites. Join me every Friday to see my favorite finds and posts over the last week.


Favorite Tumblr Find

Everything you find on my Tumblr will be absolutely NSFW and totally intended for adults only! But here’s my favorite PG-13 find from this week and be sure to check out my #TumblrFavorites posts.

http://valerieraynetumbles.tumblr.com/post/135483746051/bestof-society6-art-prints-by-fariedesign

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Favorite Tweet

In the same week that I got my expansion, The Boyfriend got Fallout 4. I’ve been enjoying playing on and off, but I’ve come to this realization:

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Favorite Instagram Update

There’s a store at Kaeidyn’s school and she decided to get everyone, including the parents, Christmas presents. This year, I got an awesome ugly Christmas sweater!

I have the best 11-year-old daughter ever! Got me an #UglyChristmasSweater 😉

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Favorite YouTube Video

It’s been a constant stream of conversations about Star Wars in the last few weeks in our house as everyone gears up for seeing the seventh movie. We also get a kick out of Jimmy Fallon, so it only makes sense to share:

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Favorite Posts Over the Last Week

In case you might’ve missed them over the last little while, here’s my favorite posts from around here over the last week…

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Well, that’s my #FridayFavorites.

I encourage you to follow me wherever you are and if you have favorites that are different from mine, let me know what you loved in the comments below! And be sure to join me next Friday for another installment of #FridayFavorites – what will I find?

Breakfast with Santa 2015

Breakfast with Santa 2015

Before the weekend, I got a call from Kaeidyn’s school. It sounded all official, so I sat up in bed concerned, only to learn that Kaeidyn had been given a bunch of tickets to go to the Festival of Trees and Breakfast with Santa. So, a few days later, we were heading out to do that.

The kids were all beyond excited. For Carter, he had never actually met Santa before – we’ve always been working and been super busy around this time of year and the whole visiting the mall to get pictures taken with Santa just hasn’t worked out. So, it was his first year and he was nervous and giddy and it was absolutely adorable.

The Breakfast with Santa was a lot of fun and the kids spent the whole thing talking all things Christmas. The Boyfriend was so happy to see bacon at the breakfast and I had a cup of tea for the first time in years and it was delicious!! And then, they turned the music on…

We all got up and danced around for a bit. I’m always sad that this doesn’t happen more often because it’s honestly some of the most fun we ever have as a family. The kids all like to compare moves and somehow the parents always really get into and while we all know we probably look like a bunch of dorks, none of us seems to care for a second. There are just not enough opportunities for family dancing!

Then, we waited in line for what seemed like forever to go take a picture with Santa. No one could stand still because they were all just so excited and the longer we stood, the less still they were. I was so relieved when we finally made it up to Santa, because the kids had just gotten to that point of reaching their anticipation limit – where they go from restless to just misbehaved.

Carter was so hesitant to get up close to Santa. They had been given candy canes and Carter shyly offered one to Santa as the other kids tried to push him in closer to get picture ready. Everyone took their place around Santa and the kids, all like little professional models, turned to the camera with their greatest smiles and it was such a nice little moment for us. Especially The Boyfriend, who had never experienced the whole first-visit-with-Santa thing.

We went down to Mom’s immediately after the breakfast, which was way earlier than we normally go down for Sunday dinners, which means that I watched more football today that I ever have in my entire life! After filling up on breakfast, we were being served a great lunch/dinner and tons of appetizers and having a generally great time – save for a few little arguments here and there – which isn’t an abnormal occurrence when you get two pretty strong-minded Scorpios in a room 😉

The day absolutely tuckered us all out though, completely. Kenzie fell asleep at Mom’s. Then, when we got home, both the parents ended up dozing off on the couch as Carter curled up in blankets on floor and fell asleep. Kaeidyn went to bed almost a whole hour earlier than her bedtime. The only one who didn’t seem massively exhausted from our adventures today was Keirnan.

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#FridayFavorites: For the Week of October 16 – 23

Ever wanted to be able to see what I’m up to all over the web without actually having to go all over the web? Well, now you can with #FridayFavorites. Join me every Friday to see my favorite finds and posts over the last week.

Favorite Tumblr Find

Everything you find on my Tumblr will be absolutely NSFW and totally intended for adults only! But here’s my favorite PG-13 find from this week and be sure to check out my upcoming #TumblrFavorites post.

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Favorite Google+ Update

It’s almost time for NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month). I’ve always wanted to do it, maybe one year…

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Favorite Tweet

I couldn’t pick between a favorite tweet this month, so I’m just putting them both.

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Favorite Pinterest Board

With Halloween just a week away, I’ve been searching out pins like crazy for the day. Although I’ll probably never get around to using any of these this year, maybe next year 😉

Follow Valerie’s board Halloween Pinspiration on Pinterest.

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Favorite Facebook Update

The Museum of Sex (which I totally plan on going to one day) posted this awesome little graphic and I’ve been loving it for days!

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Favorite Posts

In case you might’ve missed them over the last little while, here’s my favorite posts from around here over the last week…

  • The Club – Part 1 (NSFW)
    Taryn and her best friend go out for a night dancing at the club, but it gets interesting.

  • The Club – Part 2 (NSFW)
    After dancing, Taryn and her best friend stumble out to the car in the parking lot.

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Well, that’s my #FridayFavorites.

I encourage you to follow me wherever you are and if you have favorites that are different than mine, let me know what you loved in the comments below! And be sure to join me next Friday for another installment of #FridayFavorites – what will I find?

Making My Mind Race

I have been having a difficult time falling asleep these last couple of days. I seem to have a lot on my mind – and not particularly about anything – but the moment I decide I’m ready for bed, no matter how exhausted I am, my mind goes into hyper-active mode.

Last night, I’d have to keep stopping myself and relied on the number 30, which I would countdown from and then back up to, and this happened over and over again. I was in bed for a good hour and a half struggling with stopping my brain and all its thoughts and counting to keep the thoughts quiet. Have I ever told you how much I hate numbers and how much I hate that they seem to be the only thing that work?

One big thing that I know that I’m struggling with right now is all the kids. And it’s not my normal regular struggling, where I feel overwhelmed or bogged down by them. It’s precisely the opposite. They’re all getting so old, so independent, so wonderful and I’m constantly in this state of gratitude about the wonderfulness of my kids. However, it also makes me nervous and tense and I feel an emptiness, as if I’m losing a part of myself because of it. I spend a lot of my days almost regretting that I haven’t been a better Mom, that I didn’t get to do all the things I always wanted to do with them when they were young, that they don’t need me more or don’t want me more.

It doesn’t help when they’d all rather be with their Dads, respectively. At least once a day lately, I’m hearing from Carter how much he loves The Boyfriend more than he loves me. Sentences like, “I love Daddy 9, 959 more than you” or “I love you a block away from Daddy” – and while I know that he doesn’t mean them the way that they sound or that that’s not really what he’s trying to say, it always makes me feel like my job as his Mom is being completely diminished. Or, when given a choice between doing our traditional Halloween trick-or-treating or going to their Dad’s – Kaeidyn, Kenzie and Keirnan all chose going to their Dad’s – even though Kaeidyn had planned to go with friends.

And I get it, because even though we knew our Dad wasn’t awesome in any way, when me and my siblings were kids, we would’ve picked Dad over Mom almost any day. Mostly because, no matter how awful it is, it feels like a holiday.

I’m trying not to let myself get hung up on all that negative energy and instead am trying really hard to focus on all the really great things that we’re getting to experience and navigate through together. I’m trying to ignore the fact that I’m sad about the passing of time and instead trying to be really logical about that process. I’m also trying not to ignore the feeling altogether, but to try (and trust me, it’s hard) and appreciate that I even get to experience that. It is making my mind race!

The Boyfriend and I have been having a tense week or so now. It started with his extreme excitement over Star Wars. First, it was the game beta, then it was the trailers and the news, now it’s everything Star Wars. I’m normally a really supportive girlfriend – I take on his interests, almost always. And I get a lot of pleasure from doing so. And I enjoyed doing it for Star Wars too, even though it’s awfully difficult because I really don’t remember enough about the movies to really follow anything that he’s saying.

But after a week or so of that, I was tuckered out from listening to him – to be really honest and frank. I felt like I had spent a lot of time quiet and listening, which isn’t terrible, it’s just so not me (unless I’m depressed). And just as I began to feel exhausted, the elections happened. We’ve had small elections since we’ve been dating, but we’ve never had an election for a Prime Minister before.

Days and days and days commenced of a lot of different things. Facebook went wild with all sorts of opinions and even though I only stood on the sidelines and watched it all go down, it completely drained me. Then, The Boyfriend had a lot of opinions about the elections, which I wasn’t expecting. Neither of us are really political people… Or at least, I had thought.

And suddenly, we were disagreeing about everything. Absolutely everything. I stated a theory about a trailer for a movie and even though he basically said the same thing as me, he disagreed with me through the entire thing. I stated an opinion about the Liberals and he disagreed vehemently. And this went on for days, even for things that didn’t matter at all, that there was no need for disagreement about. It was like he was trying to start a debate with me, without letting me debate.

The night that we heard the Liberals were winning out, I believe the night before the elections, a huge discussion goes on. He’s got lots to say and I really don’t, because I just don’t feel like I have any right to say it. Obviously, I have the right (like it’s my constitutional right), but because it doesn’t interest me and I’m not educated about it and I don’t keep myself informed about any of it, I just don’t feel like I have a right. So, we’re talking away and it’s a lively conversation that for the most part is light and fun.

I have no idea what I said that resulted in this, but he says first, “I don’t want to say it“, and I said, “No. Do!” and he said, “Well, you’re not really out there!” and I nodded even though my jaw was gaping. I can’t disagree with him there. He’s allowed me to live a pretty sheltered life the last few years. He’s worked hard to ensure that I don’t have to unless I really want to and I’ve adapted wonderfully to life as a stay-at-home mom. He doesn’t insist that I get out of the house if I don’t want to and he allows me to kind of lock myself up in here. I’m appreciative of it, even if sometimes it really drives me nuts that he just supports my inaction and that, even though I know he doesn’t mean it that way, he uses it against me.

He tends to think that I’m this naive, innocent little girl because I see the good in people instead of the bad, and because I think countries will send aid not war, and because I think that not all the guys in power are bad guys, and because I would like to think that not everyone in the world is trying to commit some atrocious crime against us. And when he sits there telling me that that’s not really how it is “out there“, it makes me never want to leave the comfort and protection of these four walls. And I hate him for making me feel like the tiniest person in the world.

Even though, I know, that this is not at all what he means and that to him, he absolutely loves these things about me and loves that he can continue to keep me protected – even though I know all of his wonderful intentions, I can’t help but feel slightly off about it in some way. Slightly resentful towards him in someway. And the fact that I have that negativity like that towards him in any way right now is making me feel incredibly guilty and ungrateful. And that is making my mind race!

It has been such a use-your-brain kind of couple of weeks. And that is making my sleep incredibly difficult. I’ve been having a hard time falling asleep, mostly because I can’t shut the constant stream of thoughts off, and I’ve been having a hard time waking up, because it feels like I haven’t rested at all. And although I feel mostly fine when I do get up, I’ve been pretty negative towards myself for the inability to just sleep normally. For being the type of person who sleeps better during the day and functions better at night, for the being the type of person who lays there wide awake for an hour before falling asleep, for being unable to shut my brain up. And that, is making my mind race!

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#FridayFavorites: For the Week of October 9 – 16

Ever wanted to be able to see what I’m up to all over the web without actually having to go all over the web? Well, now you can with #FridayFavorites. Join me every Friday to see my favorite finds and posts over the last week.

Favorite Tumblr Find

Everything you find on my Tumblr will be absolutely NSFW and totally intended for adults only! But here’s my favorite PG-13 find from this week and be sure to check out my upcoming #TumblrFavorites post.

View the Original Post on Tumblr.

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Favorite Song

For the last few days, the song I want to listen to when I first wake up seems to be “Bitch, I’m Madonna“, obviously by Madonna. I listen to it at least once a day right now…

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Favorite Google+ Update

It was Thanksgiving in Canada last weekend and we celebrated as we always do by going to The Boyfriend’s sister’s house for turkey dinner – and it was delicious!!

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I spent all night last night watching the 4 episodes of this program available on Netflix. Then, I woke up today and made everyone watch it again!

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Favorite Pinterest Board

I’ve shared my Sunrise, Sunset board, I’ve shown off my Pathways board and now, I’d like to share my Prettiest Flowers board. Some of these are jaw-dropping!

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Favorite Facebook Update

You probably saw this, if you follow me anywhere, because I’ve been obsessed with this post. Kaeidyn’s been hard at work on a scrapbook and came across a bunch of old pictures.

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Favorite YouTube Video

This video made me laugh hysterically and brought tears to my eyes. I literally said to The Boyfriend “This makes my heart sing!“. Makes you think and feel and that’s a beautiful thing!

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#FridayFavorites: For the Week of October 2 – 9

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Favorite Tumblr Find

Everything you find on my Tumblr will be absolutely NSFW and totally intended for adults only! But here’s my favorite PG-13 find from this week and be sure to check out my upcoming #TumblrFavorites post.

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Favorite Song

The guitar riff in this song is to die for. And for such a simple song, it evokes such great emotion. I can never get enough of “Never Going Back Again” by Fleetwood Mac.

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Favorite Google+ Update

There are many places that I’ve always dreamed of traveling to and New York has long been on that list. This post gave me at least two more reasons to go to New York (as if I didn’t already have enough reasons).

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I’m still working my butt off to publish this post. I seem to be struggling something fierce, and it doesn’t make any sense…

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Favorite Pinterest Board

While I love pictures of the sun (which I shared last week), paths seem to be my biggest photographic obsession. I take lots of pictures of paths and this board brings me so much happiness!

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Favorite Facebook Update

I was scrolling through my Facebook feed and was so surprised to see my Mom had shared a Davey Wavey video. Watched the video, loved it, had to share it!

 

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Favorite Posts

In case you might’ve missed them over the last little while, here’s my favorite posts from around here over the last week…

  • Wasting Away
    Do you ever feel like you’re wasting your life away?
  • #BathTime Rantings
    A spotlight on a Google+ post that really should’ve been a blog post…

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#FridayFavorites: For the Week of September 25 – October 2

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Favorite Tumblr Find

Everything you find on my Tumblr will be absolutely NSFW and totally intended for adults only! But here’s my favorite PG-13 find from this week and be sure to check out my upcoming #TumblrFavorites post.

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Favorite Google+ Update

I was getting all my online blogging work done left, right and center and then suddenly, the inspiration just left me. I’m still searching 😉

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They recently added Scandal on Netflix and I’ve been doing a lot of watching. I’ll throw it on in the background a lot while I’m doing other stuff. I wouldn’t say that I like this show, but I also wouldn’t stop watching it.

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Favorite Pinterest Board

After taking a few really awesome sun pictures myself, I started looking for more and I have found so many truly beautiful ones. Even a couple of my own on this board 😉
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Favorite Facebook Update

We’re doing fall cleaning during this week, including the first big leaf raking of the yard. It’s always fun to do this with the kids and watch them explore the seasons change.

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#FridayFavorites: For the Week of September 18 – 25

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Favorite Tumblr Find

Everything you find on my Tumblr will be absolutely NSFW and totally intended for adults only! But here’s my favorite PG-13 find from this week and be sure to check out my upcoming #TumblrFavorites post.

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Favorite Google+ Update

I have been incredibly hard at work this week on The Erotic Writers Group. It has literally taken over all my social networks, I am just consumed in the project. I’ve set a goal date too, so it’s a pretty big deal.

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I told you it was taking over everything!

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Favorite Instagram Photo

My terrible terrible workspace. Maybe this is why I have such a hard time getting stuff done!

#WorkingHardOrHardlyWorking #WhoCanTell #TheGameIsOn #FinishIfItKillsMe

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Favorite Facebook Update

It was Kaeidyn’s 11th birthday last weekend and even though she was at her Dad’s for the weekend enjoying the Fall Festival, I celebrated with pictures!

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Favorite Song

It very rarely ever happens that The Boyfriend becomes obsessed with a song. So rarely, that every time that it happens, I suddenly become obsessed with the song. He loves the lispy “s” in this song so much!

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Favorite YouTube Video

It’s an oldie. Like a 2008 oldie. But seriously, this was my absolute favorite video of the time and when I ran across it the other day, I was delighted and overcome with nostalgia. Share it with me 😉

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#FridayFavorites: For the Week of September 11 – 18

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Favorite Google+ Update

I’ve been trying to read a bunch of classics ever since I got myself The Complete Sherlock Holmes a few years back. Local bookstore has some great deals on the classics, so they’re easy to get my hands on.

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Favorite Pinterest Board

I have a great appreciation for art, although don’t look at it nearly as often as I would like to. I hope this board changes that and helps me to explore.

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Favorite Tumblr Find

Everything you find on my Tumblr will be absolutely NSFW and totally intended for adults only! But here’s my favorite PG-13 find from this week and be sure to check out my upcoming #TumblrFavorites post.

10 Things You Didn’t Know About Vaginas on Valerie Rayne Tumbles.

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Favorite Facebook Update

We went out and watched the Perseid Meteor Shower a few months back, would be fun to go out and see the “supermoon” lunar eclipse too.

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I watched this amazing documentary on Netflix this week called “Marina Abramovic: The Artist is Present“. I strongly suggest you watch it if you get the chance.

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#FridayFavorites: For the Week of September 4 – 11

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“I’ve been dealing with a lot of stress this week, WAY too many firsts. It resulted in me being completely unaware that it was Friday yesterday and therefore I missed this week’s #FridayFavorites . Oh well, next week…”
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Favorite Google+ Update

With back-to-school well underway, there’s lots of lists being made and lots to do. Including goals for the rest of the year…

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Favorite Pinterest Board

I recently ran across a bunch of vintage stuff on Pinterest and this spurred the creation of the All Things Vintage board, which literally has everything vintage!

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Favorite Song

I literally just heard this song thanks to Spotify and it’s suggestions and I think it’s going to end up on my regularly listened to lists very soon! Enjoy “The Wire” by HAIM.


Favorite Tumblr Find

Everything you find on my Tumblr will be absolutely NSFW and totally intended for adults only! But here’s my favorite PG-13 find from this week and be sure to check out my upcoming #TumblrFavorites post.

#TumblrFavorites: Top 5 Tumblrs – September 2015 (View on Tumblr)

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Favorite Facebook Update

It seemed like we spent the entire weekend celebrating Keirnan’s eighth birthday and there was a lot of talking about how long ago it seemed like he was a baby, how much he’s grown.

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I spent part of the week working on stuff for The Erotic Writers Group, which meant that I jumped onto Zazzle for a little bit. While I didn’t get anything done that I had intended to, I did do this…

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#FridayFavorites: For the Week of August 21 – 28

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Favorite Google+ Update

Sometimes, it’s just there. On your mind. And you can’t simply ignore it. Sometimes, it’s not that simple. It won’t shut off…

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Favorite Tweet

There’s been a lot of going through old blog posts lately and the walks down memory lane have been quite exciting and a little hilarious!

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Favorite Pinterest Board

Last week, I shared some of the beautiful buildings I’ve collected on Pinterest. This week, some of the spaces that I’d like to see within those buildings!

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Favorite Tumblr Find

Everything you find on my Tumblr will be absolutely NSFW and totally intended for adults only! But here’s my favorite PG-13 find from this week and be sure to check out my upcoming #TumblrFavorites post.


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Favorite Facebook Update

Tons of polls lately in The Erotic Writers Group Community on Google+, and I found the stats to be really interesting!

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In case you might’ve missed them over the last little while, here’s my favorite posts from around here over the last week…

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Favorite YouTube Video

Not only are these two hilarious in almost every single show I’ve ever seen them in, they are also incredible at making hilarious songs. I appreciated this one a lot!

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#FridayFavorites: For the Week of August 14 – 21

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Favorite Facebook Update

This week, I was hard at work getting all my pictures and videos organized and ran across this Facebook video, that was just perfect for #ThrowbackThursday.

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Favorite Instagram Photo

In the process of organizing photos, I came across this quick shot of The Boyfriend and I from the day we took the kids to the spray park.

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Favorite Pinterest Board

My Beautiful Buildings board showcases architecture of all type that I really enjoy. From entire buildings to stairs and doors that are simply breathtaking.
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Favorite Google+ Update

This week, one of my favorite Google+ers shared a great post she had written and I had just had to share it with all of you!

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Favorite Tweet

Hope I’m able to watch some of the livestream of the Morpheous Bondage Extravaganza again this year, and one day, maybe I’ll even get to attend 😉

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Favorite YouTube Video

A few years back, I got really into belly dancing. I still dream of someday doing it. I get stuck watching videos from Tribal Fest and thought this one was brilliant!

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Well, that’s my #FridayFavorites.

I encourage you to follow me wherever you are and if you have favorites that are different than mine, let me know what you loved in the comments below! And be sure to join me next Friday for another installment of #FridayFavorites – what will I find?