#WTMFIWednesdays: Session #10 – Having Sex


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Question 1:
Could you write about your sexperiences? Would you?

I could definitely write about my sexperiences and I do!

I’ve technically been writing about my sexual experiences since I was 11-years-old and got my first journal. I wrote about my first fingering experience when I was 14. I wrote about sex with Alfie the first time at 16. And so, when I started regularly blogging, it just naturally evolved to writing about my sexperiences.

It brings me a lot of joy to write about them, especially when years later I can look back over those posts and remember that evolution of my sexuality. Only a small part of it has anything to do with enjoying other people reading them and enjoying them 😉

Question 2:
Should you always pee after sex?

I generally tend to think yes. I always pee after sex, because I have to. I tend to think it’s more important for girls than it is for guys, just because there’s stuff going in us more actively than in them. The Boyfriend rarely ever pees after sex. So, to each their own.

Question 3:
Would you ever have sex in front of people? Under what circumstances?

It is an absolutely huge fantasy of mine to have sex in front of people.

In one sense, my Pornhub videos are me having sex in front of people. But I would love to have sex in front of a real, live audience. Whether that be an intimate group of 4 or 5 people who I know and love or in front of a thousand strangers – I’ve fantasized frequently about them both!

I think that I would absolutely love to do this, under almost any circumstance!

Question 4:
Should you always use a condom when having sex?

I think that should be up to the partners involved.

I personally rarely ever use a condom. I don’t often use safe sex methods at all. However, I’m in a monogamous relationship and we aren’t trying to prevent pregnancy.

I would use condoms, if I were sleeping with multiple partners or if I was preventing pregnancy. I have used condoms in the past. Just don’t need to right now.

Question 5:
Could you ever see yourself as a sex worker?

Absolutely. By uploading videos to Pornhub and previously being on cam, one could argue that I am a sex worker – although I definitely wouldn’t put myself in that category. I’m more of a hobbyist.

I’ve long thought that the ideal career for me was in sex work.

BONUS:
What would you do if you didn’t enjoy the oral sex your partner was giving you?

It would honestly depend on the type of mood I was in.

If I was feeling kinda powerful or in control (which I normally do if I’m getting oral sex), then I would most likely either verbally or physically direct the person to where I want them to go. I’m not often very shy in saying, “Oh, that doesn’t feel right. Let’s try this instead.“.

There are rare nights where I will be feeling more shy or timid (which normally only happens if he suggests the oral), then I might subtly move myself into a position that feels a little better – lifting my hips or scooching to the left a little.

A lot of times, if I’m not enjoying oral (which almost never happens!), then it’s because of me and my head. A lot of focus and concentration often get me out of this spot. Focusing in on what the sensations actually feel like rather than what I think they feel like. Concentrating on the particular movement of his tongue or his hands on my hips. Often holding hands is a great way to get me past my mind.


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#WTMFIWednesdays: Session #9 – Before He Cheats


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Question 1:
Have you ever been cheated on?

I only know for sure of one time that I’ve been cheated on, although I’ve suspected that 2 out of 3 of my boyfriends have cheated on me.

Surprisingly, even though I had long suspected that he had cheated on me with girls, the only time that I know about was him sleeping with another man. It came as no surprise since it had always been a curiousity of his and I didn’t find out about it until over a year after it happened, so I wasn’t really upset either.

Question 2:  
Have you ever cheated on a partner?

Unfortunately the answer to this question is yes.

For the first four-ish months of The Boyfriend and I’s relationship, I was still sleeping with the older kids’ Dad, Alfie. It wasn’t what I wanted to be doing (see my answer for the bonus question…) and I wasn’t doing it to try to hurt The Boyfriend or Alfie in anyway. At the time, I thought it was what was needed for people’s protections – mostly the kids.

It was an incredibly complicated situation that makes absolutely no sense to me almost a decade later and I’m just glad that we all made it through the way that we did, because stuff could’ve turned out very differently…

Question 3:
Have you ever faked an orgasm?

Yes. And not even for my partner’s benefit, but for my own. It’s not like a go-to thing either. I won’t just fake an orgasm for the sake of faking an orgasm. I’m perfectly happy most of the time to go without an orgasm and be completely honest with everyone (including myself) that I didn’t orgasm and that’s okay.

But sometimes, you’ve worked so hard, you’ve gone so long, you’ve put so much effort in!

Question 4:
Have you ever fallen in love with someone who didn’t love you back?

Not that I know of.

Question 5:
Have you ever had an STI?

No.

BONUS:
Have you ever had sex with someone when you didn’t want to?

Technically, yes. Although, it was not rape. And you’re like, “Wait… How’s that now?“, but you’d be wrong… I’ve had sex a lot when I didn’t really want to.

In some cases, it’s like the faked orgasm thing. Sometimes you force yourself to get over the hump of lack of sexual arousal because nothing else seems to work. When you’re deep in depression, deep in the fog, for example. When pain in your back or knees or legs is telling you not to do it, but you know it’s the only thing that’ll help (literally just experienced this last night!!!). When anxiety or responsibilities or life is making arousal impossible. Sometimes, you push through that!

The four months that I cheated on The Boyfriend, it wasn’t like I was enthusiastically still sleeping with the ex. Looking back on it now, I would describe it as something akin to “dutiful“. Almost as if the whole time I was thinking, “I must do this, for so and so’s benefit/protection/happiness” – although in no way was I ever saying “No“. Time and perspective and healing has given me that view of the situation.

So yes, I’ve had sex when I didn’t want to, under a whole variety of circumstances.


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#WTMFIWednesdays: Session #8 – #RelationshipGoals


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Question 1:
#RelationshipGoals: What TV show would you and your partner be on?

In a way, I’ve always related our relationship to Luke and Lorelei from Gilmore Girls – although only really parts of it. He even sometimes looks like Luke…

We knew each other for a long time before we started dating, although always from a distance. After Alfie and I finally broke up, him and I started spending a lot of time together. One day, we’re sitting on the couch and somebody punched somebody, our hands locked and we’ve been holding hands ever since.

I’ve never really thought about all the ways in which we are similar or our relationship is similar to Luke and Lorelei, but if we were on any TV show, that would be the one that we’d want. During our relationship, we’ve probably watched the whole show from beginning to end about 7 times!

Question 2:
#RelationshipGoals: Which literary couple would you most like your relationship to be like?

I have simply not read enough to be able to answer this question accurately!

Question 3:
#RelationshipGoals: Which movie couple would you most like to have a relationship like?

I don’t ever think I’ve seen a movie where I was like, “That’s a great relationship!“. Maybe it’s the type of movies I watch or something, but they are always normally pretty dysfunctional or have these wicked highs and lows.

The Boyfriend and I aren’t like that. It’s just this comfortable, relaxed and very mellow relationship – outside of all the kid-related stress. When it’s just the two of us, it would make for a boring movie!!!

Question 4:
#RelationshipGoals: What song would be the theme song for your relationship?

Over the years of our relationship, I have picked many different songs as theme songs for our relationship. For awhile, I looked at Bound to You by Christina Aguilera as being the song to describe our relationship and was a little obsessed because of it. ASAP Science on YouTube once did a video called “The Science Love Song“, which I insisted was written about us because we are both kinda science nerds.

Generally, I think every good love song was written about us 😉

Question 5:
#RelationshipGoals: Do you want your relationship to have any rituals or traditions?

When I think of rituals and traditions, I immediately start thinking of kinky rituals that I would like us to add to our relationship. Greeting at the door, eye-contact or speech restrictions, etc.

I guess we do have some rituals. We always fall asleep the same way, him spooning me and always with an “I love you” before we pass out wrapped up in each other. He gives me at least three quick kisses before he leaves the house anywhere and gets quite upset if I pull away before that.

BONUS:
#RelationshipGoals: What do you hope the future of your relationship is like?

The biggest thing I’m looking forward to in the future of my relationship with The Boyfriend is growing old together. Finally having all the kids out of the house and finally just being able to spend our time enjoying each other. Our whole relationship has been nothing but taking care of and worrying about kids.

I always hope that one day he’ll propose to me, even though I have no intention of getting married. But I’ve always really wanted someone to publicly proclaim their love for me, some big romantic gesture. I don’t think it will ever happen, since neither of us really care about marriage. But it’s one of those things that I just can’t completely eradicate from my mind.

I hope our future continues to be a lot like our present.


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#WTMFIWednesdays: Session #7 – Feet or Hands?


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Question 1:
Would you rather kiss a foot or kiss a hand?

I would rather kiss a foot. I am not a huge fan of the idea of my lips against feet or anyone’s lips against mine!

Question 2:
Would you rather look at pictures of hands or feet?

Feet. I’m a big fan of footography. I especially like looking at my own.

Question 3:
Would you rather shoes or gloves?

I think I would rather shoes. If I’m going to go window shopping online for anything, it’d be shoes. And it ties into the footography thing.

Question 4:
Would you rather lick the sole of a foot or suck on a toe?

Lick the sole of a foot. Toes are kinda weird to me. They look weird, they feel weird. Just not really my bag. So, definitely lick the sole of a foot.

Question 5:
Would you rather have a foot fetish or a hand fetish?

I would say that I have more of a foot fetish than a hand fetish – although I technically have neither. I’m just more attracted to the foot than the hand. But a hand fetish would be very interesting!

BONUS:
Would you rather being slapped or stepped on?

Definitely would rather being slapped. I enjoy being slapped quite a bit. It makes an invigorating sound. It’s stingy and thuddy. Getting stepped on would be more compression-y, and I’m less into that.


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#WTMFIWednesdays: Session #6 – Pornography


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Question 1:
Who are your favorite porn performers?

I don’t really have favorite porn performers. Honestly, I don’t think I watch enough porn to be able to accurately choose a favorite. My tastes in porn also fluctuate frequently, therefore so do my preferences for appearance, performance, ability, etc. My favorite porn performers, at any given time, always look like they enjoy being there. Even if they’re crying or screaming out in pain, they still look like they are enjoying it.

I’d be lying if I didn’t say that one of my favorite porn performers is myself. While I’m highly critical of myself (which is why I only have 6 videos posted out of my home library on Pornhub, even though I have at least a dozen more), when I think I’m hot, I think I’m really hot! I enjoy watching myself enjoying myself!

Question 2:
What is your favorite type of porn?

My favorite type of porn changes constantly. Sometimes, I can’t get enough of lesbian porn and then sometimes I don’t want to watch it at all. I’ll go through periods of only wanting to watch hetero-couples where the girl must be a brunette. At times, I really enjoy watching porn that absolutely pushes my limits and makes me cringe and shudder in disbelief.

Ultimately, my favorite porn is intriguing porn. It doesn’t just stimulate my genitals, it stimulates my mind. I don’t care too much about storyline or plot, quality of production isn’t as important to me. But if it makes me go “Hmm” at any point, I’m likely to enjoy it a lot more.

Question 3:
Where do you typically consume your porn? Describe the setting.

I almost always watch porn in my living room. I have a big couch that I like to stretch out on. I usually use my Xbox One to connect to Pornhub – although we’ll sometimes venture elsewhere. We’re just really most comfortable with it. Then, I lounge and watch porn with the volume relatively low on my 42″.

Question 4:
When do you typically watch porn?

I don’t get to watch porn nearly as often as I would like to. In a perfect world, I’d watch it daily. But the reality is, I rarely ever feel like watching porn. It happens every couple of months, I’ll normally go on a bit of a two week binge, and then don’t look at it or think about it again.

In terms of time of day, I almost always watch porn at night.

Question 5:
Why do you like the porn you like?

My favorite types of porn always make me think about my own sexuality. Make me question things like, “Am I into that?“, “Could I do that?“, “I wonder what that would feel like?“. It’s more immersive than just getting aroused. I can get aroused all on my lonesome, the porn has to add something to it.

BONUS:
How do you typically consume your porn? Describe the experience.

A typical night of porn consumption:

The Boyfriend and I cuddle up on the couch and scroll through Tumblr as he’s finishing up playing games. I point out all the things I like and think are interesting as he shoots bad guys. Then, Pornhub gets turned on.

This is generally a long boring part of the night. We try to only pick videos that are longer than 20 minutes, unless something really catches our eye. It takes us a long time to pick even one video and we spend most of this time just scrolling through the pages talking about the various titles and video thumbnails. Sometimes, we’re teasing each other throughout, but sometimes we’re just scrolling.

The porn usually gets left on while we’re having sex, although it’s almost always completely ignored.


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#WTMFIWednesdays: Session #5 – Speaking of Sex


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Question 1:
Should we teach children about sexuality? When? How?

I’m a pretty big believer in teaching everyone about sexuality. When it comes to kids, it’s a tricky situation and ultimately every kid is going to be taught differently, but that doesn’t mean that it shouldn’t be done.

I can only really speak about teaching my own kids about sexuality, because I’ve never really taught anyone else. But I was always determined to be honest with my kids about everything. Obviously I’ve learned that that’s not always possible and the truth is very subjective, but when it came to their bodies…

Penises were always called penises. If I was on my period and they came into the bathroom and had questions, they were told exactly what was happening. When they overheard The Boyfriend and I having sex, it was talked about openly and honestly. And now, as I’m dealing with a very curious 13-year-old, masturbation and fetishes are talked about almost daily (and when these conversations are going down, none of the younger children are shielded from them).

Kids kinda all start to show interest in their bodies and other people’s bodies at different points. I have one kid who was endlessly curious about sex from the time she was young and I have another who still “eewwss” at the mention or sight of nipples. So, you give them as much as they are seeking. When she was 5-years-old and came home from Kindergarten talking about rape, there were certain things she needed to know – so the basic “What is rape?” conversation was had. Now that she’s in middle school, the rape conversation is WAY different. Not only are there different points in their interest levels, there are different points in their understanding and comprehension levels.

So, in terms of my own personal experience with educating kids about sexuality, you tailor it individually for your kids interest and comfort levels. But, you still talk about. I’m also a big supporter of sex education for the school curriculum. I thoroughly enjoyed sex ed as a kid, and all my kids have come out of it and any questions they still had, they felt comfortable enough to come ask me.

I think just treating sex and sexuality like a normal natural part of our existence and experience is the best way to teach kids about sex.

Question 2:
Would you feel comfortable talking to a doctor about your sexuality?

I’ve had 5 kids… What do you think?!?

Part of the reason I have the views I have about sex education and children is because I strongly believe that doctors can do they’re job best when patients are educated. There’s a huge difference between my labia or some part of my vulva hurts and my vagina hurts. Even if you’re thinking about, horrifically, a court of law looking at a child making rape accusations and testifying in court and because they don’t have the language to accurately describe what’s happened… ugh just thinking about it.

I believe in absolute transparency with my doctor especially. That person is my healer and isn’t here to judge me. And even if he does… that doesn’t make much of a difference to me. He needs to know everything so that he can do his job to the best of his ability. So yeah, I feel comfortable talking to my doctor about sexuality.

Question 3:
Could you talk to your parents about sex?

Yes. I can talk to anyone about sex!!!

Sometimes, I wish my parents felt a little less comfortable talking to me about sex – talk about way too much f**ing information…

Question 4:
Would you attend a sexuality conference?

I would love to attend a lot of sexuality conferences. I’ve never had the opportunity to do so, but you can bet that if I ever get the opportunity, I’ll be there! In a heartbeat!

Question 5:
Should sex be talked about on the daily?

Why shouldn’t it be?!? I have a passion for sexuality. Why shouldn’t I be allowed to talk about my passion on the daily. It’s also, again, a supernatural part of existence. So yeah, why shouldn’t it be?!?

BONUS:
If you could talk to anyone about sex, who would you want to talk to?

This list is so incredibly extensive. I have so many idols in the sex-world, from sex educators to researchers to authors and bloggers, there are literally so many people. Probably the top of my list, the number one person I would love to talk about sex with, would be Alfred Kinsey. I find him to be a great inspiration and just think him and I could have some really great conversations.

Again, there are so many people I would add to this list. It’s kinda hard to think where to start. I think I’ll give this one some thought and write a post about it later. But I can think of so many!!!


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#WTMFIWednesdays: Session #4 – Lick or Spit?


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#Q1: Would you rather... give or receive oral sex?
#Q1: Would you rather… give or receive oral sex?

#A1:

I would definitely rather give oral sex. Don’t get me wrong, I love receiving oral sex. But I’ve always considered myself a bit of an artiste when it comes to blowjobs (and I imagine cunnilingus too, just have no proof for that particular experience) and derive a lot of serious pleasure from the act of giving oral sex. I’ve written plenty about it and I even have the quotes to prove it 😉

Session #4 - #Q2: Would you rather... lick up spit or cum? - #WTMFIWednesdays
#Q2: Would you rather… lick up spit or cum?

#A2:

Definitely cum.

I’ve never really been all that into spit. I get really grossed out when watching porn when they do the whole spitting on cock or vag – even if it’s for the functional purpose of lube. I use spit as lube, but I’m not about to literally let my spit dribble out of my mouth for the purpose. I’m not a fan of ball gags solely because of the idea of drool. Just not a big fan of spit.

But cum, that’s a whole other game. I like just about everything about cum. And while I’m not a fan of the taste of cum after it’s had a chance to cool (which happens really fast…), I’d be much more comfortable with that.

Had a cute moment when Kaeidyn saw these questions:

Session #4 - #Q3: Would you rather... spit out cum or swallow cum? - #WTMFIWednesdays
#Q3: Would you rather… spit out cum or swallow cum?

#A3:

Absolutely swallow cum.

From a very young age, even before I actually started giving blowjobs, I have always thought that if you get it in your mouth, you might as well swallow it. Also, refer to question 2 – the longer cum sits, the quicker it gets cold and cold cum is not good cum. And another thing, I’d have to like regurgitate cum from my throat to be able to spit it out, it’s normally so far back there that there is no point in spitting it out. Plus, it’s good for me, so why would I spit it out?!?

Session #4 - #Q4: Would you rather... vagina-to-anus sex or anus-to-vagina sex? - #WTMFIWednesdays
#Q4: Would you rather… vagina-to-anus sex or anus-to-vagina sex?

#A4:

I would rather no anal sex.

But, purely for health/hygiene reasons, vagina-to-anus.

Session #4 - #Q5: Would you rather... squirting or non-squirting orgasms? - #WTMFIWednesdays
#Q5: Would you rather… squirting or non-squirting orgasms?

#A5:

First things first, I’m happy with any kind of orgasm. However, it has always been on my list to have a squirting orgasm. Never had one before, but I don’t know if I’d want it to be an every time thing either. Squirting for special occasions or certain types of sex or something.

Session #4 - #BONUS: Would you rather... be caught masturbating or giving oral sex? - #WTMFIWednesdays
#BONUS: Would you rather… be caught masturbating or giving oral sex?

#BONUS:

I think I would rather be caught masturbating. I’ve actually been thinking about this question for a few days, trying to picture it in my head. And I keep thinking, probably masturbating. I can’t exactly pinpoint why I’d rather be caught masturbating than giving oral sex, but probably mostly because then I’d only have to worry about my own embarrassment and not my partners. It also feels less intimate to me and it’s easier to play off like you weren’t doing anything.

It’s funny though, because if you had asked if I’d rather be watched masturbating or giving oral sex, where like all parties were consenting to this experience, I’d have picked giving oral sex over masturbating any day!!!


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#WTMFIWednesdays: Session #3 – Masturbation


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Question 1:
What was your first time masturbating like?

I don’t know if I remember my very first time. I remember two of the very first times, but I can’t be sure that they were the very first – just the first ones that I remember.

One time was with my favorite stuffed toy, that became just about my most favorite pervertible ever. It had a nice hard nose that felt so good to grind against. The next time, I was supposed to be laying down for a nap, but couldn’t sleep, so grinded against my fingers and the mattress.

Question 2:
When and how often do you typically masturbate?

I go through phases. Sometimes, I’m masturbating constantly – multiple times a day for days on end. Other times, I can go weeks without even thinking about it. 

Generally, I get bitchy if I don’t orgasm every three days, so I am to either have sex or masturbate that often.

Question 3:
Who, if anyone, do you typically fantasize about when you masturbate?

Almost always, I fantasize about The Boyfriend. 

When I fantasize about other people, which normally only happens in the context of threesomes or group sex with The Boyfriend, other guys typically are faceless versions of The Boyfriend. He really does have my favorite type of body to fantasize about! If there’s a girl there, which sometimes happens, she’s basically a faceless version of me. 

I almost never see faces when I’m fantasizing. Lips up-close, sometimes. But never a full-out face.

Question 4:
Where do you typically masturbate? Describe the setting.

So, there’s basically three spots that I like to masturbate in. 

The first, and probably most used, is the bathtub. I can lock the door and that’s probably the biggest reason I like it. Our bathroom right now is pretty small and the bathtub is pretty small and you can almost never get a full bath of hot water, but again, it locks.

The next is my bedroom. It’s a really boring bedroom. I’m not one for decorating, so there’s literally a mattress on the floor. But I have just about the best comforter in the world and it’s a comfy place to do pretty much anything sexual.

Finally, on the couch, in front of the computer. It doesn’t happen often here, but if I’m having one of those super horny streaks, the couch in the living room gets used a lot more than I’d like to admit!

Question 5:
How do you typically masturbate?

I’ve been masturbating the same way for a really long time now. It’s what works best for me. It’s always right hand, three fingers (pointer, middle and ring), firmly on my clit with periodic dips into my vag for lubrication. Sometimes, especially if I’m having a hard time getting there, I’ll use my left hand to pull everything taut or push/pull things to the perfect spot. 

BONUS:
Are there any reasons, other than arousal, that you masturbate?

Definitely, although I think it normally always turns into arousal. It can be started to relieve stress or headaches, if I’m feeling incredibly bored and lonely or if I’m just having a hard time feeling sexy in my skin. Sometimes, if I’m having bad insomnia, I’ll use it as a way to put myself to sleep – although that normally results in having to go 3 or 4 times, which works, but is exhausting!!!


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#WTMFIWednesdays: Session #2 – I Touch Myself


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  •   Tag your post #WTMFIWednesdays
  •   Link up with us by adding your link to the original post
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The Questions & My Answers


Question 1:
Have you ever masturbated in front of someone else?

Regularly! 

A lot of times after the actual sexual intercourse and after The Boyfriend’s orgasm, I like to masturbate to have normally my second orgasm – to just kind of close out the night.

Question 2:
Have you ever masturbated in a room full of people?

No, but it is absolutely a fantasy and on my list of things to do. As a bit of an exhibitionist, I’ve always wanted to do all sorts of sexual things surrounded by people – watching and enjoying me doing what I do 😉

Question 3:
Have you ever masturbated at work?

I never have, but probably mostly because I haven’t worked in a really really long time.

Would I do this? Probably. 

Question 4:
Have you ever masturbated using an object that wasn’t intended for that purpose?

Absolutely!

For a long time, I didn’t have access to sex toys – especially as an exploring teenager. So, stuffed puppy dogs were a favorite for a long time. Hairbrush handles were a short-lived obsession. I went through a phase where I would only use pervertibles because I didn’t think my pleasure should cost me anything or involve me going out of my way or above and beyond.

Question 5:
Have you ever masturbated enough to cause yourself injury, no matter how small?

Yes… Unfortunately, I have done this a few times. Normally, really small “injuries”. Nicks from a nail, almost like chaffing from going for too long and too hard, a soreness feeling near my perineum from tugging too much on the area I had stitches. Luckily, nothing serious!

BONUS:
Have you ever masturbated to porn that didn’t turn you on?

No, I’m pretty picky about porn. And I will turn it off the second there is something that I don’t like or that doesn’t turn me on or that doesn’t intrigue me in some way. 


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WTMFI (Way Too Much F***ing Information) Wednesdays

A weekly sex meme arousing discussions on sexuality


The Rules


  •   Write a post answering as many of the questions as you’d like
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  •   Tag your post #WTMFIWednesdays
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The Questions & My Answers


Question 1:
What was your first time kissing like?

My first time kissing happened on New Years’ back in 2000 into 2001. It was with my very first boyfriend. We had been dating for quite awhile by this point and my Mom, in her New Years’ Eve drunkenness, insisted that I had to kiss him that night. I was glad she did, because honestly, I was super scared to have my first kiss. It felt like a really serious move to me.

I remember thinking at the time that it was the best thing I had ever experienced. Even though our little trailer was filled with about thirty people and music was blaring and dogs were barking and everyone except us was drunk, the whole world just kinda stood still for us to have a great intimate moment. I don’t think we ever had another kiss like that with each other.

Question 2:
Did you orgasm the first time you masturbated?

The first time that I can remember masturbating, I had discovered the hard nose of one of my stuffed toy dogs. It was not the type of orgasm I know now, it was more of a quick shudder. I remember becoming absolutely obsessed with that dog until the day that I discovered that water coming from the tap in the bathtub…

Question 3:
What was it like giving oral sex the first time?

So, again with the same first boyfriend mentioned above. We used to go to his Dad’s house about once a month for a big dinner. It was usually food that I hated, but we got to spend quite a lot of time alone there. I remember that the movie Black Sheep was playing in the background. He kept insisting I needed to watch this movie, but we were both far too distracted. I still couldn’t tell you what that movie is about…

I remember thinking that I was exceptionally skilled at it – probably why I’m still so cocky about it today. It just felt very natural and comfortable and right. I immediately knew that I would want to do that again!

Question 4:
Did you think you were good or bad at sex the first time?

Our first time having sex, again with the same boyfriend in all my other firsts, was generally awkward.

It was at a party. Everyone in attendance knew the plan was for us to have sex that night. Everyone was basically cheering us on. My sister had brought along a huge pack of condoms. Again, everyone except us was drinking.

There were a lot of interruptions. Almost as soon as I got my shirt off, my sister barged in and snapped pictures of us (which my Mom later developed and this is how she got confirmation that we had had sex – I had told her ahead of time that it was going to happen). During some pretty intense foreplay, a drunk girl stumbled in insisting I was Crystal. Needless to say, it was hours upon hours upon hours before we finally got down to it.

It was awkward and funny, but I definitely didn’t think I was bad at it. I thought that practice would make us better 😉

Question 5:
What was your first time falling in love like?

Crazy…

We were together for about 2 years, give or take. And I fell really hard. It took me a really long time to get over him. We were both incredibly passionate people – not just in terms of loving each other, but about everything. So, our love was kinda crazy. It was tumultuous.

BONUS:
How do you feel now about your first sexual experiences?

I’ve always felt really good about my first sexual experiences. They happened exactly as I wanted them to at the time, and I don’t think I ever felt uncomfortable about a single one of them.

I was with someone who loved me and whom I loved. We both respected each other and each other’s bodies. Although our first sexperiences weren’t overly romantic and weren’t made out to be these “special moments”, they were perfect and there was no pressure and I think they gave me a really great foundation for my future sexplorations.


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Working on #WTMFIWednesdays

So, as some of you may remember from the post WTMFI Wednesdays: Should it return?, I had been considering bringing back the meme that I started back in 2010. Then, I posted on Google+ that I was officially working on the project – and I have been!!!

Blog-a-holic that I am, I’ve started a brand new website for the project and I personally think it is some of my best work to date. At the moment, it’s well-organized, laid out great and super SEO friendly (which is a huge first for me!) – and I imagine as sessions and submissions get added, it’s only going to get better!!!

Today, I want to give you a bit of a sneak peek into what’s coming up. We will be starting our first session on November 1st, 2017. In the lead-up, any thoughts or ideas or opinions that you have, I invite you to leave in the comments below. And if you’re just excited about the return of WTMFI Wednesdays, like me, then give this post a like!!!


What is WTMFI Wednesdays?

WTMFI Wednesdays

WTMFI (Way Too Much F***ing Information) Wednesdays

A weekly sex meme arousing discussions on sexuality.

How does WTMFI Wednesdays work?

Every Wednesday, at a yet to be determined time, a new Session goes live on wtmfi.com.

Each session includes 5 + 1 questions about a topic related to sexuality based on one of our weekly themes. Topics dictate the subject matter of the questions and themes dictate the structure of the questions.

Users are invited to answer any and all of the questions in any manner they prefer – all we ask is that you do us a couple favors – and you can participate by submitting in any of the ways listed below.

How do I participate in WTMFI Wednesdays?

How to Participate in WTMFI Wednesdays

We offer a variety of ways for you to participate in WTMFI Wednesdays – we don’t want anyone to be left out and we want everyone to feel comfortable at whatever level of internet they are. So, we’ve got options as simple as “Add your Comment” or “Become a Registered Participant” to more difficult options like “Post to Our Tumblr” or “Post to Your Own Blog“.

What happens when I become a Registered Participant?

I’m personally most excited for this aspect of WTMFI Wednesdays!

First and foremost, becoming a registered participant is and always will be free. You won’t ever have to pay for anything on wtmfi.com – EVER! Not unless all of a sudden you aren’t allowed to have websites that don’t charge or look at websites that don’t charge or some absurd law I’m sure Trump is all over!

And what happens?

  1. You get a Profile

    Tell other people that visit our website who you are. Upload an avatar and a profile cover photo, post status updates and get access to all of your other features.

  2. Connections (Followers, Compliments and More)

    Connect with other participants of WTMFI Wednesdays. Follow other users so you can see when and where they’re submitting (plus any other activity they’re up to around the site) and earn and send compliments based on your activity around the site.

  3. Session Groups

    Every session has it’s own group. You can connect with other participants in a particular session and have deeper discussions about the theme and topics of that session.

  4. Forums

    From news and support to discussions on the themes and topics of various sessions, you can even make tons of suggestions for questions!

  5. Gamification (Points, Ranks, Badges and More)

    Earn points for almost every action you take as a registered participant on WTMFI Wednesdays. Climb up the ranks from Newbie to Gold to Ruby. Unlock badges for completing achievements. And there’s more…


The official site for WTMFI Wednesdays, http://wtmfi.com/, will go live a few hours before we begin posting questions for Session #1 on November 1st, 2017. It’ll give you enough time to get familiar with the site, register and set up your profile.

Be sure to follow WTMFI Wednesdays on Google+, Facebook and Twitter to find out when the site is open and to get updates on new sessions. And if you want to get some behind-the-scenes news and such, you can check out our Blogger.

Don’t forget to let me know if you plan on participating in the comments below. I know I am!

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9 of My Favorite Tweets from August 2017

I’ve been collecting up my favorite tweets for each month into Twitter Moments. You can see all of my favorites here but today I wanted to share the best of the best from August’s Moment.

If you’re on Twitter, I’d love for you to follow me there: @ValerieRayne13.

If you have stuff I like, I love to follow back! It’s the best place to go to get notified when I’m posting to my Tumblr and the conversation here tends to be more sexual than anywhere else. Probably because I follow so many other people who are talking about it.

What was your favorite tweet from August 2017?

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Perusing My Drafts Folder

At any given time, you can be sure that I have a minimum of 30 posts in my drafts folder.

Posts that are basically done and just waiting for me to feel ready to publish them. Posts that are just one line of an idea. Posts that are notes to be comprised into a full-out piece. Some are posts that will never see the light of day, some will sit and never be touched again and some will slowly be pulled out when I feel the time is right.

I’ve been trying to make a dedicated effort to go through my drafts folder regularly and either delete that which I don’t plan on publishing or finishing up and publishing posts that typically would sit untouched. I’ve even been going through my drafts folders on really old blogs, from years ago!

This has resulted in some of these posts. First, I have a post in my drafts folder all about the videos that I want to do for Pornhub. There’s even a poll to see if you’re interested in the post (I’d love for you to vote on it!).

After mentioning for the third day in a row that I want to go dancing, the “crap we’re going through“, which hasn’t been an issue in a really long time, got brought up. So I went through those posts (which I told you I had been working on…), and now I’ve gotta figure out how I’m going to publish them.

And of course, because I was going through those posts, I happened across this one:

So now, it’s just a matter of putting the finishing touches on everything and deciding how I’m going to go about publishing – and in the case of the last one, if I’m going to publish at all. One day, I’ll have a completely empty drafts folder, one day. Today however, is not that day. I currently sit at 40 draft posts and I imagine that I will add at least one more by the end of tonight!

Ah, tis the life of a blog-a-holic!

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Accidental Anal

The Boyfriend and I have not had very much sex lately.

We’ve had plenty of time and lots of opportunity and make plans to have sex frequently, but we’ve both been more focused on cuddling and sleeping. We’ve been making up for it immensely with makeout sessions like we’re new lovers and tons of beautiful snuggling.

But today, I was pretty desperate. So, when we had a chance to take a nap, I quickly whipped off my pants and stuck my ass out for him to touch. And of course, one thing led to another.

I was wet. Like drenched. Soaking. Absolutely wet.

It started on our sides and then we both started liking how it was feeling when he would get deeper. So, up on his knees he went and slowly I was pushed forward until I was basically on my stomach. The position was awkward, but allowed him to perfectly shove his fingers in my mouth, deeply pound my pussy and since I was so wet, easily slide a single finger in my ass.

He’s really gotten into this lately. Quite possibly because it really does make me cum so fast. I absolutely hate that it works so well – and for me, it’s not necessarily the finger in there as much as it is the finger around there – but it’s almost like a trick to speed up my orgasm. After the last time we had unsuccessful anal sex, he told me I would have to tell him when I wanted it.

As he adjusted, I flipped over entirely on my stomach and he quickly penetrated me. I clenched all my muscles, partially because I was playing with my clit and partially because it feels so good when he’s coming at me from behind. The ridge of the head of his cock tugs so wonderfully in this position. It also usually results in some kind of anal play – normally just cock rubbing around that area. But, I kinda figured that I could clench tight enough to make the transition from vaginal sex to anal sex pretty easily.

It’s never worked so well before!

He thrust into my pussy once more, pulled back just enough and literally popped into my ass. Not knowing he had done it entirely (as I said, things were ridiculously wet), he pushed forward again as he began to cum and I literally jumped up and pushed him off, digging my nails into his chest and curling my legs up underneath me. He continued to cum as he sat there seriously confused about what exactly had just happened. At first he thought I was cumming and then he realized what happened and immediately felt bad. It was entirely a ruined orgasm for him. I felt terrible!

The sensation was one of the most intense things I’ve ever felt. The only time I’ve ever experienced anything like it was when I was young and fell on a bicycle seat. I had to fight back tears and it immediately made me feel hot all over my body. It took forever for me to be able to move, my whole body just frozen. He sat and waited patiently for me and then we laid down for our nap.

I couldn’t resist finishing up my orgasm, since I was so close prior to the whole accidental anal incident. It took a really long time to get there and even though The Boyfriend managed to stay awake during the whole thing, I had to completely block him out to get there. Once I was done, he fell asleep in seconds. It took me another hour of tossing and turning.

I spent two days afterwards sore all over, especially in my anal region. And I don’t know if was necessarily the sex or the kids being home or the news at the time or the stuff going on with my family right now, but I spent those two days in the worst kind of funk. Terrible sleeps, terrible dreams, terrible days. Just right down and out.

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Why I Posted Videos on Pornhub

After promoting my Pornhub profile on Google+, a very close follower asked why The Boyfriend and I chose to begin adding videos to the site as part of our sexperiences.

I decided to share my answer and expand on some thoughts with everyone.


The first time I ever remember watching porn was a video entitled something like “Anal Explorations” or something of that sort. I vividly remember ejecting the VHS from the VCR and thinking, “I want to do that!!!“. Not only does my desire to be a total anal whore mostly stem from this experience, but I thought there could be no better job in the world than getting to make these types of films. I don’t know why, 11 or 12-year-old me was attracted to it.

And it wasn’t just a one-time thought. It’s a thought, been a thought, every time I watch an amazing porn or every time I watch a documentary about the porn industry or every time I research a new favorite pornstar. It’s something that follows me, almost haunts me – or at least it did.

Since I turned 14, I’ve been in a series of long-term monogamous relationships with guys who don’t like to share at all (save for the threesomes with Alfie). Mostly possessive, jealous, “you’re mine” types. Plus, I had babies really young and body image issues and the list really goes on of things that have held it back prior to know. Otherwise, you probably would’ve seen my name on Pornhub when I turned 18!

And let’s be real, it’s not like I’m really new to the world of porn. Just this medium…

I never expected that The Boyfriend and I would ever discuss the concept of uploading videos to Pornhub. It was never something that was on my radar. And up until very recently, I didn’t even know that it was an option. However, it’s not necessarily my first jaunt into the world of porn.

The first time I had sex, there was a picture taken – not in some pornographic way, but in some drunk teenage party way. Every boyfriend I’ve ever had has gotten sexy images. And, I began uploading photos when FetLife became a thing. And we’ve been making home movies for our own personal use for years now!!! And let’s not forget that I write some incredibly graphic details about a large majority of mine and The Boyfriend’s sexperiences already!

“Sharing my sexuality – it’s just what I do!”

To me, it is no different than writing about our sexperiences or sharing pictures from my sexperiences. The only difference is the medium.

Honestly, it was a spur of the moment decision. It wasn’t some laid out plan that had a lot of thought behind it. I don’t even know if we consciously decided to upload more than one. We were both feeling aroused by our stint of exhibitionism and wanted to keep that feeling going is the best I can come up with. And what better way than to upload a video to tube site!

So… Why? Really, the simplest answer is: We felt like it… We wanted to… And we could 😉

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6 Google+ Gems

You get a taste of what I’m up to around the web with my monthly Favorite Tweets and semi-regular Tumblr Favorites. Every once and awhile, I’ll add a Facebook post for good measure. But, it’s been awhile since I did any type of spotlight on Google+.

Tonight, I was scrolling through my profile and thought it’d be fun to share these 6 gems with you.



So there’s 6 Google+ gems from the last month. If you’re on Google+, I’d absolutely love for you to check me out, maybe follow me. And don’t hesitate to say “Hi!“, I’m around a lot 😉

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The Porn Pathway

You know how sometimes, you’re tumbling down the Porn Pathway, and you come across things that make you question or think about your sexuality. The content does more than arouse you or turn you on.

Sometimes, I travel down the Porn Pathway just to have those moments. Actually, a large number of times. Tonight, I was on one.

I’ve been a little obsessed with rape play and consensual non-consent posts. This isn’t really a surprise for me. I seem to go through periods of enjoying this kind of porn, probably because it’s rougher and sometimes, I really like it rough. Sometimes, it makes me question why I like to see women humiliated and tossed around and beaten up and used and abused. Or why I enjoy aspects of each of those things in my own sex?

Speaking of “going through periods“, I think I’m starting to notice some trends – maybe they’re hormonally based or environmentally based or something else entirely, but I seem to go through periods on the Porn Pathway.

For awhile, all I’ll want to see is Daddy/Daughter posts – as in the sexual roleplay Daddy/Daughter posts – and then for a long while, I won’t want to see it at all and it will actually turn me off entirely. For awhile, I’ll be super into cocks and wanting to see them everywhere and then I won’t want to see them unless their inside of womanly parts.

I’ve also really decided that I don’t like certain words used to describe porn – especially in terms of using those labels for myself. I tweeted that I wouldn’t want to be called a MILF, even though I hope that I am one… But the image that the word is associated with in my mind just does not suit what I think I am and I’m also not attracted to that image.

I also absolutely hate the word creampie to describe a man cumming inside of a woman – and I’ll almost never click on a video with such a word in the title – even though I absolutely love to be cummed inside of. I mean, absolutely!!! But if he were to say “I’m going to give you a creampie” over “I’m going to cum in you“, I’d probably be turned right off. It would be the one time his voice wouldn’t do it for me…

All of these stops along the Porn Pathway bring up a lot of questions for me about sexuality and pornography. It also answers a lot of questions about my own sexuality or my curiousities about other’s sexuality. I’m personally a huge supporter of the Porn Pathway simply because it allows me to explore sexuality in a very safe way.

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9 of My Favorite Tweets from July 2017

I’ve been collecting up my favorite tweets for each month into Twitter Moments. You can see all of my favorites here but today I wanted to share the best of the best from July’s Moment.

If you’re on Twitter, I’d love for you to follow me there: @ValerieRayne13.

If you have stuff I like, I love to follow back! It’s the best place to go to get notified when I’m posting to my Tumblr and the conversation here tends to be more sexual than anywhere else. Probably because I follow so many other people who are talking about it.

What was your favorite tweet from July 2017?

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The Colors of a Spanking

One thing that really attracts me to spanking in particular is the way in which I feel sensations during them.

It doesn’t happen with things like cropping or flogging, although a similar state is achieved, it’s not the same. During a spanking, it often feels like I have a lot more than five senses. And those five senses, plus all the other new ones, are heightened dramatically.

Sounds become sharper, smells become stronger, I become hyper aware of everything. And, most notably, I begin to feel a specific color.

I’m not talking like my ass starts to feel a particular color. I’m talking like my whole being and surrounding space feels that color. When his hand touches me, it feels like he is splashing me in that color. When I open my eyes, it’s what I see – everything tinted that color. I feel like I’m emitting that color from my skin, like I’m sprayed in the perfume of that color.

The first time he spanked me after our seven year hiatus, I felt red. The marks from the spanking were more of a purple welted color, but my whole being felt red for two days. During The Spanking – Pt. 2, I began feeling pink. Pink I had felt before, red I hadn’t.

I’m convinced that I know that there will be certain colors. Purple will be for the slightly heavier than red spanking, the one that leaves you kicking and writhing – big leftover bruises. Black will be for the first spanking ever experienced where you pass out or push far past a limit. And white, which I’ve decided is my ultimate goal color, is where I believe subspace lies.

I’m also convinced there will be colors that I haven’t imagined yet (and probably don’t want to), like green or blue – the first I imagine, knowing my luck will happen the first time he gets to spank another girl and me at the same time (sad laugh) and the second, I imagine will come after an exceptionally emotional spanking that results in tears and aftercare (above and beyond what is usually required).

I know, for me anyways, that there are for sure two colors that I have personally experienced in my spankings. Pink was very floaty and playful. Red was passionate and serious. I know that there are possibilities for many more emotional sensations during spankings. And I’m desperate to explore all the colors of a spanking!

Do you experience colors during spankings, outside of the color of your ass? Do you experience other heightened sensations during spankings or other sensations that don’t fit within the box of the five senses? 

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9 Things The Boyfriend Does That Turn Me On

It wasn’t originally meant to be, but in honor of our 9-year anniversary:


The Boyfriend is probably the best lover I’ve ever had. I say probably, because it’s not really something you can compare – or at least not fairly.

I don’t think he knows that he’s so good. I mean, he’s a confident guy who doesn’t really question these things. I would imagine that he thinks he’s just as good as everybody else is – nothing special. Even when I’m raving about his skill, I think he often doubts that I’m telling the truth. Maybe that also has something to do with his greatness – his humility.

I was sitting here thinking about all of the things he does that really turn me on, that really set him on that best lover pedestal. So, I decided it would be fun for me to make a list.

  1. He’s Surprisingly Intuitive

    Which you wouldn’t expect from just his day-to-day being. He’s kinda oblivious outside of the bedroom. But he seems to know what I want long before I’m even fully aware that I want it. Fisting is a perfect example. Just days before, I was saying that I didn’t really think it was an interest, but then it happened and it felt beyond incredible and it was exactly what my pussy had been longing for. And he knew that!

  2. Those Whispers

    He does this talking thing during sex. I’ve tried to describe it many times, I feel like I’ve always failed at getting the description right. I’ve never heard anyone talk the way he does during sex and one day, I’m determined to get a recording of it!! He can literally say anything to me in that voice and it will be utterly erotic to me. We’ve tried it, it’s true!I don’t know what it is about it. The raspiness of his half groan-half whisper. The way certain letters dangle from his lips onto mine – this almost hypnotic need to repeat him. The desperate control in his tone as he breathes out the last syllable. The way it calms me, soothes me, entices me, excites me. It’s so good!

  3. He’s Sensitive, Balanced, Flexible

    I don’t know if those things all go hand-in-hand or not but… He walks this amazing balance between gentle and firm. He makes me feel tiny and beautiful, using only his hands and that voice that drives me wild. He can tell, without a single utterance from me, whether he’s being too rough or to soft and has the ability to adjust in the moment without me even realizing.

    He picks up on the subtle changes, he’s almost never too much of one thing or not enough of another, and he’s able to change directions at the drop of a hat.

  4. He Has Amazing Hands

    Seriously…! When he does just about anything with his hands – it sends a shiver down my spine and right to the tip of my clit! He has this ability to touch me with those hands that can make me immediately wet. When he softly caresses me and I can feel that electrical exchange between us. When he roughly grabs at my flesh and takes in giant handfuls of me. His hands are strong and yet, they can be so delicate.

  5. He’s Creative

    His creativity knows no bounds in the bedroom – even though he really is a vanilla prude sexually. Even with that huge restriction though, he invents new positions on the fly and continues, nine years into it, to surprise me with moves and tricks and ways of discovering each other that I don’t think I could come up with on my own.

  6. He Knows “My Spots”

    He absolutely knows exactly where and how to touch me to achieve certain things. He knows my buttons and precisely when and how to press them. He can take me from focused on anything but sex to soaking between the legs, just with a gentle trace of a specific spot. He can switch me from playful to primal or from on the edge to over it, just by knowing exactly when and how to hit my spots.

  7.  He Watches Me Closely

    It’s surprising to me that I enjoy it at all. I get a very embarrassed type of feeling when he’s watching me. I become hyper aware of everything happening. But, it absolutely turns me on. When I open my eyes as he’s thrusting above me and he’s watching my lips or when I’m going for that second orgasm and he’s down there watching my wetness or when I’m on top and he’s soaking up the view of my bouncing bosom.Probably the hottest thing though, is when our eyes meet and we lock on each other. It brings great focus to a sexperience and an immediate intimacy. I think he would like if we looked in each others eyes more during sex – it doesn’t happen a lot – but when it does happen, ugh! So good!!!

  8. He’s a Great Dad

    On top of all the things he does inside the bedroom that turn me on, he does a lot of things out of the bedroom that really turn me on. First and foremost, he is a great Dad!

    Any time I see him playing with our kids or taking care of them or talking to them, not only does it bring a smile to my face but it definitely makes my ovaries twitch! He does so many things for this family and always does it without complaint. He goes above and beyond for his kids, kids that aren’t biologically his, our family

  9. He’s Crazy Intimate With Me

    Speaking of the out of the bedroom things he does that absolutely turn me on – he’s a super affectionate and very intimate guy, which fits perfectly with my super affectionate and very intimate-ness. People often say we’re “attached at the hip“, as if it’s a terrible thing, but we personally love it like this. We’re passionate about loving each other, in and out of the bedroom. It’s incredibly hot to be able to exchange little moments of intimacy with each other, to stop time together, in this chaotic life of ours.

Of course, this is only a small list of the things he does to turn me on. Not to mention all the ways and things about him that turn me on – like his forearms or the way that he raises his eyebrow when you’ve made him think when he wasn’t expecting it. Obviously, I could go on and on for days!!!


However, in honor of our 9-year anniversary, I’ll leave it at 9 things he does that turn me on.

And if you’re interested, you can look back over our these past anniversary posts: